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Need clarity on this situation; stealing and lying and rehab
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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 726133" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Origami, I think the only thing more painful than telling a child he is no longer welcome in your home would be having them die. At least, I felt that way when I put our son out of our home. I felt like it would kill me, I truly did. I felt that I had failed somehow; I was a horrible person, a horrible mother. Gosh, I'm getting teary just writing this. But I was right to make him leave. Mine did not have the addiction problem yours has - but other than the substance the actions were similar. No steady work, unreliable, lies, deceit, stealing...Same song to a different beat. </p><p></p><p>In the end, it was best for everyone involved that he was made to leave, no matter how much it hurt and no matter how much I wanted to hold him and make him all better...and when he left entirely and had to make his own way, that was when things began to change a little. </p><p></p><p>Is there any kind of halfway house, sober living facility, or something? Surely the rehab has some kind of assistance. If nothing else, coming back to the same place where he's been drugging all along will not help him stay sober. Try to impress that on your husband - and on your son if he balks and gets whiney and starts the "What will I do?" that can probably be expected. You've mentioned him OD'ing before. He is in real danger unless he changes a LOT. It's best for everyone if he goes elsewhere. </p><p></p><p>You are in my prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 726133, member: 17309"] Origami, I think the only thing more painful than telling a child he is no longer welcome in your home would be having them die. At least, I felt that way when I put our son out of our home. I felt like it would kill me, I truly did. I felt that I had failed somehow; I was a horrible person, a horrible mother. Gosh, I'm getting teary just writing this. But I was right to make him leave. Mine did not have the addiction problem yours has - but other than the substance the actions were similar. No steady work, unreliable, lies, deceit, stealing...Same song to a different beat. In the end, it was best for everyone involved that he was made to leave, no matter how much it hurt and no matter how much I wanted to hold him and make him all better...and when he left entirely and had to make his own way, that was when things began to change a little. Is there any kind of halfway house, sober living facility, or something? Surely the rehab has some kind of assistance. If nothing else, coming back to the same place where he's been drugging all along will not help him stay sober. Try to impress that on your husband - and on your son if he balks and gets whiney and starts the "What will I do?" that can probably be expected. You've mentioned him OD'ing before. He is in real danger unless he changes a LOT. It's best for everyone if he goes elsewhere. You are in my prayers. [/QUOTE]
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