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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 668111" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>SeaGenie, I feel the same way about my own life. Many people suffer losses. Not just us. And even in suffering our strength sets us apart. </p><p></p><p>I have felt like you do. After all I have been through, and this, too? </p><p></p><p>I was wrong. My son deserves his own life. He does not exist to fulfill my needs, or to protect me from pain. That is my responsibility, not his. My son is perfectly entitled to make mistakes. The one that is hard for me, is that my son is ill with a life-threatening ailment, for which he does not take medication. But I have to let go of that. I know of at least one other mother in the same boat as I am. Her son has the same disease.</p><p></p><p>This is time for you. To do wonderful things for yourself. To set firm boundaries so that your son cannot disrespect you. </p><p></p><p>I have found that my anger at my son is much diminished now that I understand I am not responsible for him. He is responsible for himself. Now that I know that I do not have to keep trying, and can set firm limits, my life has changed. </p><p></p><p>I can focus on myself and take responsibility for improving my own life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 668111, member: 18958"] SeaGenie, I feel the same way about my own life. Many people suffer losses. Not just us. And even in suffering our strength sets us apart. I have felt like you do. After all I have been through, and this, too? I was wrong. My son deserves his own life. He does not exist to fulfill my needs, or to protect me from pain. That is my responsibility, not his. My son is perfectly entitled to make mistakes. The one that is hard for me, is that my son is ill with a life-threatening ailment, for which he does not take medication. But I have to let go of that. I know of at least one other mother in the same boat as I am. Her son has the same disease. This is time for you. To do wonderful things for yourself. To set firm boundaries so that your son cannot disrespect you. I have found that my anger at my son is much diminished now that I understand I am not responsible for him. He is responsible for himself. Now that I know that I do not have to keep trying, and can set firm limits, my life has changed. I can focus on myself and take responsibility for improving my own life. [/QUOTE]
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