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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 668121" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Just wanted to add my support and agreement with all of the above. So many of us have been in your shoes. Boy do I remember the days when Oldest would scream "I'm done with this family! You'll never hear from me me again!" or, "I can't take this any more! GoodBYE forever!" insinuating she was suicidal, and hang up on me. Only to call back the next day (or sometimes just hours later) to ask me a question, as if nothing had happened. And without fail, that behavior was worse when I'd put up a boundary and stick to it, without backing down - just as you have. They're like toddlers, throwing a tantrum when they don't get their way. For me, that kind of behavior actually made me MORE likely to stand firm, because it ticked me off so much. Yes it hurt, but it ticked me off even more than the hurt. </p><p></p><p>You are absolutely doing the right thing here. I agree with the idea of attending a 12 step group like Al-Anon, or maybe looking for a NAMI support group. Circling your wagons of support is crucial at times like this.</p><p></p><p>I love the image of piloting your own plane, and pulling up above the clouds, rising above it all -- it's perfect.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 668121, member: 1157"] Just wanted to add my support and agreement with all of the above. So many of us have been in your shoes. Boy do I remember the days when Oldest would scream "I'm done with this family! You'll never hear from me me again!" or, "I can't take this any more! GoodBYE forever!" insinuating she was suicidal, and hang up on me. Only to call back the next day (or sometimes just hours later) to ask me a question, as if nothing had happened. And without fail, that behavior was worse when I'd put up a boundary and stick to it, without backing down - just as you have. They're like toddlers, throwing a tantrum when they don't get their way. For me, that kind of behavior actually made me MORE likely to stand firm, because it ticked me off so much. Yes it hurt, but it ticked me off even more than the hurt. You are absolutely doing the right thing here. I agree with the idea of attending a 12 step group like Al-Anon, or maybe looking for a NAMI support group. Circling your wagons of support is crucial at times like this. I love the image of piloting your own plane, and pulling up above the clouds, rising above it all -- it's perfect. [/QUOTE]
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