husband's ex - well, we've discussed her before. Her daughter, easy child 2, is a pawn. Nothing more. We are leaving to go on vacation Friday. We go with a group of 26 other families. This year, it happened to fall on a week that easy child 2 was not with us, so as soon as we found out the date, back in February, we emailed her mom and asked to make arrangements so she could go. First email went out on Feb 3. Mom never replied, so we emailed again a week later. Mom said it was ok and she'd get back to us later on if she wanted to trade the week before or after. Never heard from her again. Figured, honestly, that she forgot. So on the phone one night, I reminded. Again, heard nothing. So I emailed her. My email said "just want to remind you we leave fri for vac. Be back aug 3rd. Since we never heard anything more, figured you'd just keep her the next week and we'd resume school schedule when it starts aug 11." Her reply was "you never told me about this, but its fine. easy child needs to get her school schedule on July 30 or 31. If you're too busy, I'll come by and get her to go do it." Apparently, she missed the "we're leaving" part. So I just said we'd take care of the sched. (We'll just pick it up early.) Today she emails back and asks if we're bringing her back on the 1st or the 3rd. She's fixing to say easy child can't go, and I'll put money on it... I have her emails from Feb that said it was fine, she'd let us know later. But if I send them to her, its gonna TICK HER OFF. At this point, its lose/lose with her, tho. She's already ticked either way. I can send her the emails so easy child gets to go on vacation, like her mom already agreed to, but that means she probably wont' get to do soccer and tutoring this fall (her mom won't take her and we've signed her up - lawyer's advice). Or we can try to keep the peace, even tho mom already agreed, NOT take easy child on vacation (which will break her heart - only vacation she gets - mom goes, but doesn't take her) and hope she'll get to do tutoring and soccer. She'll be 12 in the spring and we plan to get a mediator and either get more time with her or custody so she can be involved in things like tutoring and soccer without this hassle. We think we have an easy case, and she'll be old enough to have a say. Any input???