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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 661876" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>AlaskaMom, this happened in my family. My Mother had two girls. I was the one that felt I could not have a relationship with my mother. I had thought it was justified.</p><p></p><p>I lived over 40 years apart from her. While we reconciled 20 years before her death and spoke on the phone regularly I saw her infrequently. I was able to care for her as she died and was with her for her last breath.</p><p></p><p>Neither one of us got what we wanted or needed from the other. Her dying and death brought a despair that now almost 2 years later continues still. I loved my Mother with an intensity and with a longing that I never knew. I loved her madly as she died. I longed for her after she was gone. With an agony.</p><p></p><p>These things happen between mothers and daughters.</p><p></p><p>When I broke off from my mother she never called. She did not write. She went on with her life. She had fun. She had boyfriends. She went to college. She had success in her work. She had a life.</p><p></p><p>While I think she felt sorry for herself, I do not think she thought about me. How it was for me.</p><p></p><p>There was nothing about me that would make you think that I did not deserve a mother. Or a family.</p><p></p><p>There was sadness for both of us. Sometimes it is what it is.</p><p></p><p>You deserve a loving daughter. You do not deserve this.</p><p></p><p>There is a sadness for both of you. Sometimes it is what it is.</p><p></p><p>And there is nothing more to say.</p><p></p><p>I would do anything in the world to have my mother back to have a second chance. </p><p></p><p>You would do anything in the world to have another chance with your daughter. Maybe that day will come for you. But it is not in your control to make it happen right now. You have tried.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes it is what it is.</p><p></p><p>Do what you can do to be happy. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for your pain.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 661876, member: 18958"] AlaskaMom, this happened in my family. My Mother had two girls. I was the one that felt I could not have a relationship with my mother. I had thought it was justified. I lived over 40 years apart from her. While we reconciled 20 years before her death and spoke on the phone regularly I saw her infrequently. I was able to care for her as she died and was with her for her last breath. Neither one of us got what we wanted or needed from the other. Her dying and death brought a despair that now almost 2 years later continues still. I loved my Mother with an intensity and with a longing that I never knew. I loved her madly as she died. I longed for her after she was gone. With an agony. These things happen between mothers and daughters. When I broke off from my mother she never called. She did not write. She went on with her life. She had fun. She had boyfriends. She went to college. She had success in her work. She had a life. While I think she felt sorry for herself, I do not think she thought about me. How it was for me. There was nothing about me that would make you think that I did not deserve a mother. Or a family. There was sadness for both of us. Sometimes it is what it is. You deserve a loving daughter. You do not deserve this. There is a sadness for both of you. Sometimes it is what it is. And there is nothing more to say. I would do anything in the world to have my mother back to have a second chance. You would do anything in the world to have another chance with your daughter. Maybe that day will come for you. But it is not in your control to make it happen right now. You have tried. Sometimes it is what it is. Do what you can do to be happy. I am so sorry for your pain. [/QUOTE]
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