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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 661927" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>A perfect question for me today!!! I love to watch Investigative Discovery which is true crime. Today a forensics psychologist was asked why a particular mother, who was tired of her husband, had him killed and didn't just divorce him. He said, and not exactly but he meant this: "These people do not think like us. They are hard or impossible to deal with or to understand as their rationalizations and thought processes are not the norm and will never be the norm. This is why we can never believe what they do and why it is not fixable." This can apply to our Difficult Child too. Most I believe are steeped in addiction, but there is more for some. Addiction alone does not make one reject us for nothing or think about things that never happened. Addiction plus personality disorders are the worst, but personality disordered people do not think like us and unless they want help to learn how others think, because they don't get it, they will stay the same. And most personality disordered individuals believe they are normal so that makes it really hard to talk them into wanting to change. They lie to themselves and never need any correction or help...they may do one normal thing then the next day act like you abused them. We can control NOBODY but us, but we have less control of personality disordered people than any others because they NEVER listen to reason or to common sense. That makes for a rocky, unstable, abusive relationship and even criminal activity against us or others, even if the drug use (if they do it) stops.</p><p></p><p>And they don't have a conscience when they do bad things to people. They feel the other person deserved it.</p><p></p><p>It is best to get on with your own life because there is no predictability with a personality disordered individual. It is allchaos/all the time. It is no way to live, even with a beloved child that we raised right. They think differently than we do and it is not our faults.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 661927, member: 1550"] A perfect question for me today!!! I love to watch Investigative Discovery which is true crime. Today a forensics psychologist was asked why a particular mother, who was tired of her husband, had him killed and didn't just divorce him. He said, and not exactly but he meant this: "These people do not think like us. They are hard or impossible to deal with or to understand as their rationalizations and thought processes are not the norm and will never be the norm. This is why we can never believe what they do and why it is not fixable." This can apply to our Difficult Child too. Most I believe are steeped in addiction, but there is more for some. Addiction alone does not make one reject us for nothing or think about things that never happened. Addiction plus personality disorders are the worst, but personality disordered people do not think like us and unless they want help to learn how others think, because they don't get it, they will stay the same. And most personality disordered individuals believe they are normal so that makes it really hard to talk them into wanting to change. They lie to themselves and never need any correction or help...they may do one normal thing then the next day act like you abused them. We can control NOBODY but us, but we have less control of personality disordered people than any others because they NEVER listen to reason or to common sense. That makes for a rocky, unstable, abusive relationship and even criminal activity against us or others, even if the drug use (if they do it) stops. And they don't have a conscience when they do bad things to people. They feel the other person deserved it. It is best to get on with your own life because there is no predictability with a personality disordered individual. It is allchaos/all the time. It is no way to live, even with a beloved child that we raised right. They think differently than we do and it is not our faults. [/QUOTE]
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