Thank God I found this site! I am so desperate to talk to others with similar children. My son is turning 15 next month. He's been a handful since the age of 3. His diagnoses- Tourette's, ADHD, ODD, Anxiety, and this year conduct disorder. He does not have one credit this year as a freshman. He is at home on house arrest and trying to do the credit recovery online. He started using marijuana at the age of 12. He was in a private school until junior high and this is where his choice of friends and chices in general went down the drain. He started smoking pot more and would use spice when he couldn't find pot. He has drank alcohol but doesn't care for it too much. He is on house arrest now because in January this year I had it and started calling the cops. He was taken to detention center because he was out of his bed at 3am coming home high-arrested. In the same week he was on his third day at an alternative school (ordered by the high school for truancy, D's/F's, and stealing his grandmothers klonopins and lortabs and ingesting several of them while at school staggering all over the place) he decided to skip alternative school with other kids there getting high all day-arrested. He was put on the shelter side of the detention center and the day before he was to be sent home on house arrested, him and his roommate decided to run away. They were out on the streets for 4 days in the midst of winter until I found them. Police took them back to detention center(lock down unit this time) where Jacob was there for 2 1/2 more weeks. He's been home and did well first two wels but back to his old manipulative self who has stolen medications, refuses to do school work unless he gets ciggarettes and recently made a short video called pill party when he chopped up zanaflex and snorted it to send to all of his friends, which I sent to his probation officer. You can take things away but nothing seems to work. I'm hoping after this last video of him snorting pills that his probation officer will ask the judge for residential treatment facility that's best suitable for him. A counselor at our church said that there is an annonomous person who wants to send a teenager with subastance problems to treatment fully paid. This counselor said to keep this in mind for a last option. Jacob started substance abuse counseling today, but he's done this before and kept telling me it's not working. Does the all paid treatment facility have to be a last option? I feel like a prisoner in my own home along with my husband! I'm manipulated and badgered for hours upon hours and I can't take much more. My daughter is 17 and wonderful, but always put on the back burner. My time is consumed with Jacob and his counseling appointment's, doctors, reminding him of everything to do including taking his medications etc... Etc.... Any helpful advice would be great!!