My son is 17 and a senior in high school. I am a divorced mom doing my best to raise him right while his father (who was abusive to my son & myself-physically, verbally, financially and emotionally) has manipulated my son against me and my rules. My son has failed multiple classes & is already failing multiple classes this school year. He & his dad have decided that my son is to old for rules and therefore can do whatever he wants. The first night of school my son didn't stroll in until after midnight so I grounded him for the week from hanging out with his friends. The following week he just didn't come home. He took a couple bags of his stuff and left. He told me he can do whatever he wants & live wherever he wants since he is 17. I have contacted the school about the situation and my sons personal counselor. For over a week I didn't have a clue where my son was or who he was with. I tried to follow his friend one day but lost them. I finally resorted to searching for him through facebook names and then property searches. The kid he is with is no longer a high schooler. The parents of that kid refuse to speak with or contact me in any way yet they will speak to my lying ex husband. He and my son have filled them with so many lies that when I confronted them (when my ex husband was present unfortunately) they were rude and refused to speak with me or give me a phone number I have stopped by their house several times & left my number in the door but NOTHING. Now I found out my son is smoking marijuana again. I had a problem with him earlier in the year and now randomly drug test him at home. He smokes while in their "care" now. I found this out because he apparently snap chated pictures of himself doing it. He lies all the time. He gets that from his father who is a pathological liar and a drunk. My son is following his dad's footsteps. He thinks physical abuse is ok because everything is everyone else's fault. Everything has an excuse. Now he & his dad are threatening to get him imancipated. My ex doesn't care what damage he is inflicting on my son. It's probably funny to him to make me miserable. After his wife was convicted (because of my ex) of identity theft and governmental fraud against me, he has been at all out war. My son just doesn't seem to get it. I'm lost. I don't know what I can do. I've been told I need to contact the police and have my son declared a runaway. I've told my son in the past, if I caught him smoking weed again that I would turn him in & force him to go to rehab. I know any action I take will just fuel the fire. The people he is living with can't be very good for him since they wouldn't contact his cosodial parent-me. In one breath they told me they are strict parents and in the next they told me they are never home. In 3 weeks time they have done NOTHING to contact me or even respond to the letters I've left on their door.