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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 688419" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>While she is saying she wants x, y or z, what she really may be seeking is something else, like attention or control, or even conflict. There is a payoff for her, that needs to be identified.</p><p></p><p>I know that if she asks for a ride, money, to go out--you will have to accede occasionally. </p><p></p><p>But if we look at it that what she is really seeking--is attention, or to control you, there is a way to deal with the interaction by not giving her the response she is looking for (say control) while at the same time giving her rewards for constructive behavior.</p><p></p><p>This is called behavior modification. There are experts that help parents with this, should it get even more severe. Or there are books.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 688419, member: 18958"] While she is saying she wants x, y or z, what she really may be seeking is something else, like attention or control, or even conflict. There is a payoff for her, that needs to be identified. I know that if she asks for a ride, money, to go out--you will have to accede occasionally. But if we look at it that what she is really seeking--is attention, or to control you, there is a way to deal with the interaction by not giving her the response she is looking for (say control) while at the same time giving her rewards for constructive behavior. This is called behavior modification. There are experts that help parents with this, should it get even more severe. Or there are books. [/QUOTE]
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