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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 635557" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok, ginger, welcome to our nightmare...hehe. J/K. Actually, we come here because ofour difficult children but we try to be caring and kind and we do understand.</p><p></p><p>First off, I hope you do not have any animals anymore. I love animals and as an animal advocate I don't think they should be put at risk. You don't know what your granddaughter does when you don't see. We adopted a child who killed two of our animals and, as God is my witness, he acted so loving toward them when we were around, we did not even suspect him the first time around. The second time we knew it had to be him because only me and him were home and it wasn't me. Broke our hearts and was just the beginning of unraveling EVERYTHING he had been doing. If granddaughter also likes fire/plays with fire and wets her bed or poops in inappropriate places, you have a possibly reactive attachment disordered kid on your hands and they can be dangerous. This happens when kids live in terrible chaos in their early years...they learn not to trust anyone and to not want to be loved. Actually, it is the same as Conduct Disorder. They have no consciences. I do not know if this is your situation. Just throwing it out there. The child we adopted ended up with a diagnosis. of "Severe Reactive Attachment Disorder." Since he was sexually inappropriate with my two younger kids, we asked CPS to take him and they did.</p><p></p><p>Back to the family.</p><p></p><p>It could be that your granddaughter lied about you and made them feel so sorry for her that they are trying to fix her, which they can't do. They may really pity her. I don't know if your granddaughter lies a lot, but many of our CD/attachment disordered kids lie a lot. That could be one reason. They could be very good people who feel they can help her.</p><p></p><p>You may want to interact with them yourself if you are worried. You can even try asking your granddaughter in an offhanded way why she thinks they are being so nice to her. You an say, "They are awfully nice, aren't they?? I do think it's odd that they allow her to miss school though. That's a huge red flag. And bad people often put on very good acts for others. If you are uncomfortable, put your foot down and don't allow it or drive her yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 635557, member: 1550"] Ok, ginger, welcome to our nightmare...hehe. J/K. Actually, we come here because ofour difficult children but we try to be caring and kind and we do understand. First off, I hope you do not have any animals anymore. I love animals and as an animal advocate I don't think they should be put at risk. You don't know what your granddaughter does when you don't see. We adopted a child who killed two of our animals and, as God is my witness, he acted so loving toward them when we were around, we did not even suspect him the first time around. The second time we knew it had to be him because only me and him were home and it wasn't me. Broke our hearts and was just the beginning of unraveling EVERYTHING he had been doing. If granddaughter also likes fire/plays with fire and wets her bed or poops in inappropriate places, you have a possibly reactive attachment disordered kid on your hands and they can be dangerous. This happens when kids live in terrible chaos in their early years...they learn not to trust anyone and to not want to be loved. Actually, it is the same as Conduct Disorder. They have no consciences. I do not know if this is your situation. Just throwing it out there. The child we adopted ended up with a diagnosis. of "Severe Reactive Attachment Disorder." Since he was sexually inappropriate with my two younger kids, we asked CPS to take him and they did. Back to the family. It could be that your granddaughter lied about you and made them feel so sorry for her that they are trying to fix her, which they can't do. They may really pity her. I don't know if your granddaughter lies a lot, but many of our CD/attachment disordered kids lie a lot. That could be one reason. They could be very good people who feel they can help her. You may want to interact with them yourself if you are worried. You can even try asking your granddaughter in an offhanded way why she thinks they are being so nice to her. You an say, "They are awfully nice, aren't they?? I do think it's odd that they allow her to miss school though. That's a huge red flag. And bad people often put on very good acts for others. If you are uncomfortable, put your foot down and don't allow it or drive her yourself. [/QUOTE]
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