emotionallybankrupt
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EB, the problem with allowing it with safeguards is her son has shown before that he is able - and will - go around those safeguards to get where he wants on the computer. Including breaking into a locked room and rebooting a computer to go around password protections.
Janet--I do see your point. My concern is wondering if klmno might "win the battle but lose the war" on the internet issue. If difficult child is so determined as to break into a locked room, wouldn't he just find another computer somewhere else in order to accomplish his goal?
I'd rather have the "problem" happening on my machine, where I might at least have some chance of finding out about it, than on the neighbor's machine, where I'd have no chance at all, or on the phone, which I'd not be willing to tap, etc.
I'd lock up the things I can lock up--my credit cards, my valuables, my medications.... But unfortunately I can't lock up the internet. I can only lock up one avenue toward access to the internet, and I'm not sure that helps much.
So...I'd still release the access but give no more access than I think it would take to prevent difficult child from going somewhere else for that brand of misbehavior. If difficult child has access enough to keep the frustration from going beyond mild annoyance, he might settle. But if home access if completely choked off, won't he just find access somwhere else, where there would be zero restrictions or safeguards? Just my thoughts on this. I know difficult child's are different, and klmno knows her difficult child better than anybody.
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