difficult child has been flipping out since last week. Had been staying at the Salvation Army but had to leave. ( I think he was kicked out). Then he managed to get back in after 2 nights with no where to go. Now he's been kicked out again and escalating.
Calling my phone, texting, pleading begging and making everyone's life miserable. Called both me and his dad my ex and told us his probation officer insisted that we had to help him find a place to stay and help him. my ex called his bluff and phoned his po and of course she said none of this was remotely true. That she is trying to get him to accept help for his mental health but he is "non- compliant" My ex asked why she had not violated him for failing his drug test, not paying his fines and generally not doing anything he was required to do for his DUI ( which by the way was for prescription medications and not alcohol) and got no good answer. My belief is they don't want to have to deal with or pay for his mental health issues if they violate him!
After 3 days of all his pleading, crying, threatening, escalating I told him that the only help I was willing to offer was to drive him to the next town over that has an excellent shelter that would give him a bed and help him hook up with resources to get him back on his feet. So I get a message from him late this afternoon saying to please give him a ride, he's ready to go because he's all out of options here, wants a shower and a bed.
After calling the shelter to make sure he wasn't lying and that they would take him if I drove him there ( they said they would take him). My husband and I agreed to drive him there. I wasn't really looking forward to the drive and his nonstop whining and verbal assaults but I agreed to drive him because I thought he was worn out and maybe really wanted a place to stay and wanted the help. . I pulled in to Mcdonalds to pick him up and he was on the phone. Bad sign, I knew that he wasn't probably at his bottom so I told him to either get in the car or I was leaving because I didn't have time for any more cr** from him.
Long story short, he had changed his mind and didn't want to go. He had a friend (someone who had scammed him before and had just got out of jail for stealing her mothers Valium drugs that was going to give him a ride) besides, he doesn't want to go stay 20 miles away with strangers with his anxiety and all! Are you flipping kidding me!!! I know that he probably told her he had his anxiety medication scrip but didn't have the money to get it filled (I refuse to pay for his medicine anymore since he only wants the anxiety medications but refuses his psychiatrist's mood stabilizers and antidepressants ) to get a place to stay and someone to use with.
I was able to calmly tell him all right just get out as I have things to get done, however, this just strengthens my resolve that he is NOT ready and truly doesn't desire anything from me besides money to get him his medications and or drugs. I wasn't even really surprised, I just get caught up in all the tears and sadness and Hope that this time that he really just wants help.
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Calling my phone, texting, pleading begging and making everyone's life miserable. Called both me and his dad my ex and told us his probation officer insisted that we had to help him find a place to stay and help him. my ex called his bluff and phoned his po and of course she said none of this was remotely true. That she is trying to get him to accept help for his mental health but he is "non- compliant" My ex asked why she had not violated him for failing his drug test, not paying his fines and generally not doing anything he was required to do for his DUI ( which by the way was for prescription medications and not alcohol) and got no good answer. My belief is they don't want to have to deal with or pay for his mental health issues if they violate him!
After 3 days of all his pleading, crying, threatening, escalating I told him that the only help I was willing to offer was to drive him to the next town over that has an excellent shelter that would give him a bed and help him hook up with resources to get him back on his feet. So I get a message from him late this afternoon saying to please give him a ride, he's ready to go because he's all out of options here, wants a shower and a bed.
After calling the shelter to make sure he wasn't lying and that they would take him if I drove him there ( they said they would take him). My husband and I agreed to drive him there. I wasn't really looking forward to the drive and his nonstop whining and verbal assaults but I agreed to drive him because I thought he was worn out and maybe really wanted a place to stay and wanted the help. . I pulled in to Mcdonalds to pick him up and he was on the phone. Bad sign, I knew that he wasn't probably at his bottom so I told him to either get in the car or I was leaving because I didn't have time for any more cr** from him.
Long story short, he had changed his mind and didn't want to go. He had a friend (someone who had scammed him before and had just got out of jail for stealing her mothers Valium drugs that was going to give him a ride) besides, he doesn't want to go stay 20 miles away with strangers with his anxiety and all! Are you flipping kidding me!!! I know that he probably told her he had his anxiety medication scrip but didn't have the money to get it filled (I refuse to pay for his medicine anymore since he only wants the anxiety medications but refuses his psychiatrist's mood stabilizers and antidepressants ) to get a place to stay and someone to use with.
I was able to calmly tell him all right just get out as I have things to get done, however, this just strengthens my resolve that he is NOT ready and truly doesn't desire anything from me besides money to get him his medications and or drugs. I wasn't even really surprised, I just get caught up in all the tears and sadness and Hope that this time that he really just wants help.
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