Help I need some advise from parents who have been there. My son J is in Kindergarten and is being violent towards adults and is destroying school property in his classroom.
When J started school in November (after his discharge from the phospital) we had a behavior plan in place and outside support set up, after being in school for 4 weeks J started ripping up school work that he did not want to do, throwing things in his classroom including pencils, papers, books and well anything that he could get his hands on. When J has been removed form the class room he hits, kicks, spits, bites, and bangs his head on who ever is lucky enough to be involved with him (usually the school psychologist and the principle). The school then calls me to come pick J up and bring him home. The behavior plan at school is not working and does not seem to even phase J. I have talked to J's therapist about school but she does not seem to have any ideas, the psychiatrist put J on Adderall 5mg for suspected ADHD, when I called the psychiatrist today he said he wants me to give J a few more days on the Addreall but I don't see how that is going to make a difference because the psychiatric said that the effects of the drug wear off in 4 to 6 hours so I don't see how giving it a few days will change a thing.
I am out of ideas, we take away fun things from J when he acts up at school, we have sat down and tried to come up with ways to help J not explode, we have read "The Explosive Child" and are trying to use plan B, when I have to pick J up from school early (what seem to be most day's) he does not get any fun activities at all meaning no play dates that day, no going out and sledding and things of that sort. The school psychologist wants me to have neuro development testing done but I have not done that yet because I am waiting to get a copy of all of the testing that was done at the phospital because I think he already had the testing done.
So I am stuck, J is falling further and further behind, I don't know how to help him make it at school, I am frustrated and angry at this whole thing and I feel like a failure, the school is looking at me for answers that I just don't have. The one thing that I can think of is not a possibility, I think part of J's behavior is because he wants to go home and he knows that if he acts out violently he gets to go home. There is no way that the school can keep J if he is being violent (I brought up him using it as a way to get home) so I am stuck.
When J started school in November (after his discharge from the phospital) we had a behavior plan in place and outside support set up, after being in school for 4 weeks J started ripping up school work that he did not want to do, throwing things in his classroom including pencils, papers, books and well anything that he could get his hands on. When J has been removed form the class room he hits, kicks, spits, bites, and bangs his head on who ever is lucky enough to be involved with him (usually the school psychologist and the principle). The school then calls me to come pick J up and bring him home. The behavior plan at school is not working and does not seem to even phase J. I have talked to J's therapist about school but she does not seem to have any ideas, the psychiatrist put J on Adderall 5mg for suspected ADHD, when I called the psychiatrist today he said he wants me to give J a few more days on the Addreall but I don't see how that is going to make a difference because the psychiatric said that the effects of the drug wear off in 4 to 6 hours so I don't see how giving it a few days will change a thing.
I am out of ideas, we take away fun things from J when he acts up at school, we have sat down and tried to come up with ways to help J not explode, we have read "The Explosive Child" and are trying to use plan B, when I have to pick J up from school early (what seem to be most day's) he does not get any fun activities at all meaning no play dates that day, no going out and sledding and things of that sort. The school psychologist wants me to have neuro development testing done but I have not done that yet because I am waiting to get a copy of all of the testing that was done at the phospital because I think he already had the testing done.
So I am stuck, J is falling further and further behind, I don't know how to help him make it at school, I am frustrated and angry at this whole thing and I feel like a failure, the school is looking at me for answers that I just don't have. The one thing that I can think of is not a possibility, I think part of J's behavior is because he wants to go home and he knows that if he acts out violently he gets to go home. There is no way that the school can keep J if he is being violent (I brought up him using it as a way to get home) so I am stuck.