For those of you who go to the Watercooler, you know that she has a boyfriend whose parents are incredibly abusive and every day is a new surprise for him. They really like to throw new rules (rather sadistic ones) at him when he comes home from work. He is pretty much self-supporting. They give him almost nothing, he will be paying his college, he already pays all his own bills, and he is 17. They don't like him having a girlfriend, maybe especially not a bi-racial girlfriend, and they have done everything they can to make sure he breaks up with her. Last night, they greeted J. by telling him that he can do whatever he wants to do, they're done with him, he can't ever use their car (he was paying insurance on their third car) and that they are taking his phone. Last week, they gave him a black eye. Things are getting out of control in the house and I've told Jumper that he probably will be forced to stop seeing her, even though he doesn't want to. In Wisconsin, a child can't leave the house before he is eighteen and J. won't be eighteen until December. Then he can live with a friend's family, but until then, unless he is abused, and that doesn't mean emotional abuse, he has to stay at home. Well, that is unless his dad and stepmother give him permission to leave, and I think they're mean enough not to. I had a heart-to-heart with Jumper today...told her he HAS to stay there and that he has to make the best of it until he's out. She refuses to face the truth and insists he can still leave (he can't...and won't). This situation is really too large for her to take on. It is her first boyfriend and unfortunately although he is a great kid, his family situation is very unstable. Jumper has these notions that things will get better, he'll m ove in with T's nice family, and all will be well. That isn't going to happen. I'm surprised that a usually level-headed kid can ignore reality to this extent. This is a side of her that I have never seen before. I guess it's called "love" in the puppy love sense. It is very frustrating and it hurts my mommy heart...For the first time, I don't know how to help her. School starts in two days (I'm glad...that will keep her busy). She has just started Vyanese for ADHD (so has Sonic--for inattention and weight control) and I'm wondering how Vyanese has worked for your kids. I was so happy typing this last paragraph. At least it is a more normal parental question...lol.