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<blockquote data-quote="WearyMom18" data-source="post: 653550" data-attributes="member: 18856"><p>All of your words make total sense and all things that have passed through my mind in thinking about this. If I were to take her, I would be leaving today in order to drive up there, stay in a hotel and then be in court at 9am tomorrow morning. I told her that I would be at the house at 2pm today ready to go, if she's there I would take her, if not it's on her. I told her that right after she left home this last time.</p><p></p><p>Now that today is here and it's just hours before I am to either take her or not, my mindset is that I don't want to take her, screw the $750.00, I'll pay the bondsman and let her have a warrant issued or whatever they do in those situations. I'm irritated that when she called me yesterday she said I will let you know soon so you'll know what the deal is and I haven't heard form her since! Not that I should believe even one word that she says at this point but something so small, like making a quick phone call I thought she might actually handle like a young adult. Guess not....</p><p></p><p>Her lack of regard for anyone else other than herself is so disturbing to me. It's disgusting really which is why I feel such a strong need to have absolutely NO contact with her for a while. I am so frustrated and angry with her I can hardly see straight and I just want a break! Taking her would be so difficult because in order to survive it with a shred of sanity would mean not speaking to her at all. She blows up at everything I say so it would be a headphones all the way kind of trip. I hope she finds her own way, I hope she gets herself there and takes care of her business once and for all so she doesn't have to worry about going up there again but my gut says it won't happen which, as all of you have said, is what I have to let go of. I'm not so much worried about her record like I was before because worrying just hurts me, it doesn't change anything and certainly doesn't affect her in anyway so why should I care? </p><p></p><p>This momma needs a long break, without her drama and begging and dysfunction, etc. I"m just exhausted and I need her to allow me to have that but I know that's almost laughable because she doesn't care what any of her actions do to me. She wants to call and say she loves me and misses me and it's all crap.... I'm sure she loves me somewhere in there but I have been her punching bag for so many years (all through her teens) that she's just used to me taking her crap. I'm blocking phone numbers left and right and she just won't leave me alone, which I need right now. I feel like she has worn out the 'momma' in me and I just want to tell her that I don't care, I want to be left alone and stop asking me for help! Enough is enough and I'm taking my peace one way or another, by blocking numbers or whatever it takes.</p><p></p><p>Venting....it's a wonderful thing. =)</p><p></p><p>I will update, I'm sure, once the 2pm mark has come and gone. I have decided that if she calls late this evening wanting a ride, I will say, I'm sorry but I was ready to leave at 2pm today and you were not here and did not contact me so I won't be going now. You will need to handle it with your attorney, or not, ongoing. If she wants to argue or yell and scream, I will repeat that answer again. </p><p></p><p>If she shows up wanting me to take her, I will take her but there will be conditions and if she violates them I will turn around and come home. I hope she has it figured out and she won't show but if she does come to the house and wasn't able to make arrangements I will follow my word and take her. That's my plan and I'm sticking to it. LOL</p><p></p><p>Good grief...I'm gonna be in the looney bin when this is over...LOL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WearyMom18, post: 653550, member: 18856"] All of your words make total sense and all things that have passed through my mind in thinking about this. If I were to take her, I would be leaving today in order to drive up there, stay in a hotel and then be in court at 9am tomorrow morning. I told her that I would be at the house at 2pm today ready to go, if she's there I would take her, if not it's on her. I told her that right after she left home this last time. Now that today is here and it's just hours before I am to either take her or not, my mindset is that I don't want to take her, screw the $750.00, I'll pay the bondsman and let her have a warrant issued or whatever they do in those situations. I'm irritated that when she called me yesterday she said I will let you know soon so you'll know what the deal is and I haven't heard form her since! Not that I should believe even one word that she says at this point but something so small, like making a quick phone call I thought she might actually handle like a young adult. Guess not.... Her lack of regard for anyone else other than herself is so disturbing to me. It's disgusting really which is why I feel such a strong need to have absolutely NO contact with her for a while. I am so frustrated and angry with her I can hardly see straight and I just want a break! Taking her would be so difficult because in order to survive it with a shred of sanity would mean not speaking to her at all. She blows up at everything I say so it would be a headphones all the way kind of trip. I hope she finds her own way, I hope she gets herself there and takes care of her business once and for all so she doesn't have to worry about going up there again but my gut says it won't happen which, as all of you have said, is what I have to let go of. I'm not so much worried about her record like I was before because worrying just hurts me, it doesn't change anything and certainly doesn't affect her in anyway so why should I care? This momma needs a long break, without her drama and begging and dysfunction, etc. I"m just exhausted and I need her to allow me to have that but I know that's almost laughable because she doesn't care what any of her actions do to me. She wants to call and say she loves me and misses me and it's all crap.... I'm sure she loves me somewhere in there but I have been her punching bag for so many years (all through her teens) that she's just used to me taking her crap. I'm blocking phone numbers left and right and she just won't leave me alone, which I need right now. I feel like she has worn out the 'momma' in me and I just want to tell her that I don't care, I want to be left alone and stop asking me for help! Enough is enough and I'm taking my peace one way or another, by blocking numbers or whatever it takes. Venting....it's a wonderful thing. =) I will update, I'm sure, once the 2pm mark has come and gone. I have decided that if she calls late this evening wanting a ride, I will say, I'm sorry but I was ready to leave at 2pm today and you were not here and did not contact me so I won't be going now. You will need to handle it with your attorney, or not, ongoing. If she wants to argue or yell and scream, I will repeat that answer again. If she shows up wanting me to take her, I will take her but there will be conditions and if she violates them I will turn around and come home. I hope she has it figured out and she won't show but if she does come to the house and wasn't able to make arrangements I will follow my word and take her. That's my plan and I'm sticking to it. LOL Good grief...I'm gonna be in the looney bin when this is over...LOL [/QUOTE]
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