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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 716514" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Ferb should know that he MUST have someone with him (pref an attorney) when speaking with the cops. His rights must be protected and cops don't do that. Even when you think they are on your side, they are not. You MUST aggressively protect his rights - esp if he knew she was sleeping with other boys who were underage and did not tell authorities. Make it SUPER clear to Ferb that the ONLY thing he is allowed to say to the cops is that he won't speak to them without an attorney. I promise it will be an expense, but worth the expense. You MUST protect his future and they might throw charges at him - you just never know. I cannot stress this enough.</p><p></p><p>Otherwise, don't make yourself sick. I see no problem with asking Ferb to not have anyone over. THe cops may be watching Mrs. X and you really don't need Ferb drawn more into this. This is a good reason for him to not have her over, fyi. You and Ferb may need a break from each other for a day or two, but you certainly can ask him not to have anyone over with all of this going on. </p><p></p><p>Only threaten what you will do. If you won't actually refuse to pay tuition, then don't ever threaten it. You don't know how strong a hold she has on him, or if she will just turn up anyway if she knows you are gone. So if you don't want to actually have to wreck your relationship over refusing to pay his tuition because he couldn't say no to this hag, then don't threaten to refuse to pay his tuition. Find something else to threaten him with. Something you will do. Say you won't let him have a car the first semester at college maybe. Or something else.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 716514, member: 1233"] Ferb should know that he MUST have someone with him (pref an attorney) when speaking with the cops. His rights must be protected and cops don't do that. Even when you think they are on your side, they are not. You MUST aggressively protect his rights - esp if he knew she was sleeping with other boys who were underage and did not tell authorities. Make it SUPER clear to Ferb that the ONLY thing he is allowed to say to the cops is that he won't speak to them without an attorney. I promise it will be an expense, but worth the expense. You MUST protect his future and they might throw charges at him - you just never know. I cannot stress this enough. Otherwise, don't make yourself sick. I see no problem with asking Ferb to not have anyone over. THe cops may be watching Mrs. X and you really don't need Ferb drawn more into this. This is a good reason for him to not have her over, fyi. You and Ferb may need a break from each other for a day or two, but you certainly can ask him not to have anyone over with all of this going on. Only threaten what you will do. If you won't actually refuse to pay tuition, then don't ever threaten it. You don't know how strong a hold she has on him, or if she will just turn up anyway if she knows you are gone. So if you don't want to actually have to wreck your relationship over refusing to pay his tuition because he couldn't say no to this hag, then don't threaten to refuse to pay his tuition. Find something else to threaten him with. Something you will do. Say you won't let him have a car the first semester at college maybe. Or something else. [/QUOTE]
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