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<blockquote data-quote="HopingForTheBest" data-source="post: 724989" data-attributes="member: 22586"><p>Thank you, Bloodied & Somewhere -- </p><p></p><p>Bloodied - Thank you for sharing your story. I think my girlfriend will especially appreciate the connection with someone who has walked in her shoes. Fortunately, there's been no violence as of yet, just threats of violence with homophobic slurs by text. To our faces, he's very supportive.</p><p></p><p>My girlfriend's relationship with my oldest is a bit tenuous to say the least. She has long suspected this darker side of my oldest, and as a result she doesn't trust him and it shows. When she first came into the picture, they were close for the first year or so. Now they set each other off. She remains very very close with my youngest, who is 15. </p><p></p><p>My girlfriend is working with her therapist on playing the role of stepmom effectively (I should note, we're engaged). Her therapist happens to be the same one I saw after my divorce, and she had suspicions of my ex; as I very naively described his behaviors (I thought he was "normal" - we had been together since we were 17), she noted things that were inappropriate that should have made me wary. While she never would have tried to diagnose my ex, the points she drew out of me made me curious, so I researched it. Now I can tell you rather definitively he displays classic NPD and Borderline (BPD) traits (random withdrawals from specific loved ones over petty reasons for extended periods, affairs, bizarre bouts of anger, extreme dieting). So this therapist is aware of my oldest's possible genetic pre-disposition, and she recommended we have him tested to let us know where he's coming from because it changes the way we parent him. </p><p></p><p>Side note... before the divorce, my ex had participated in a behavioral test at work that had been administered by a LCC. The LCC noted that his test results were peculiar (suggesting that he had tried to manipulate the test). My ex took that as a compliment, saying "no, I really am that good."</p><p></p><p>Somewhere - he's being tested March 8th by a psychologist who's been working as one of the top in the field for over 40 years. I'm told it's difficult to 1) manipulate the results of this test and 2) get one by on this particular dr. </p><p></p><p>And great - SCARY - point on the food / drink. That possibility has been in the back of my mind, along with access to my toothbrush, etc.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HopingForTheBest, post: 724989, member: 22586"] Thank you, Bloodied & Somewhere -- Bloodied - Thank you for sharing your story. I think my girlfriend will especially appreciate the connection with someone who has walked in her shoes. Fortunately, there's been no violence as of yet, just threats of violence with homophobic slurs by text. To our faces, he's very supportive. My girlfriend's relationship with my oldest is a bit tenuous to say the least. She has long suspected this darker side of my oldest, and as a result she doesn't trust him and it shows. When she first came into the picture, they were close for the first year or so. Now they set each other off. She remains very very close with my youngest, who is 15. My girlfriend is working with her therapist on playing the role of stepmom effectively (I should note, we're engaged). Her therapist happens to be the same one I saw after my divorce, and she had suspicions of my ex; as I very naively described his behaviors (I thought he was "normal" - we had been together since we were 17), she noted things that were inappropriate that should have made me wary. While she never would have tried to diagnose my ex, the points she drew out of me made me curious, so I researched it. Now I can tell you rather definitively he displays classic NPD and Borderline (BPD) traits (random withdrawals from specific loved ones over petty reasons for extended periods, affairs, bizarre bouts of anger, extreme dieting). So this therapist is aware of my oldest's possible genetic pre-disposition, and she recommended we have him tested to let us know where he's coming from because it changes the way we parent him. Side note... before the divorce, my ex had participated in a behavioral test at work that had been administered by a LCC. The LCC noted that his test results were peculiar (suggesting that he had tried to manipulate the test). My ex took that as a compliment, saying "no, I really am that good." Somewhere - he's being tested March 8th by a psychologist who's been working as one of the top in the field for over 40 years. I'm told it's difficult to 1) manipulate the results of this test and 2) get one by on this particular dr. And great - SCARY - point on the food / drink. That possibility has been in the back of my mind, along with access to my toothbrush, etc. [/QUOTE]
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