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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 758147" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Trying</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry that you are suffering. I am suffering too. When we know our adult children are off the rails, I think it is impossible not to suffer, when we have direct contact with them. I know that is true for me.</p><p></p><p>This is what I believe. Just as you don't want your son to be a slave to his alcoholism, almost every mother of a daughter would not want her to be in the lifestyle that your son would subject any woman too. As long as your son does not choose to enter a recovery program, this will go on, and on. </p><p></p><p>Your choices to preserve your cash and your security, and to build rather than destroy your finances is reasonable and warranted. Any money that goes to your son goes to his drinking and drug use, directly and undirectly. </p><p></p><p>As long as you are close in to his life, it will hurt this way. There is no way to live a life on an even keel as an alcoholic or drug addict.</p><p></p><p>In my view there is NOTHING you can do and EVERYTHING he can do to work to change his situation, his life and himself. </p><p></p><p>There are choices that you can make to not be the effect of his behaviors and choices. One thing you can do is to post here every day multiple times a day on your own threads and others' threads. This is what changes us. Another thing you can do is to go to Al Anon groups, online for now. </p><p></p><p>This situation will not change until you recognize that you are the one who can change. But recognizing this will only come in the process of changing, that is, walking the walk.</p><p></p><p>I know and I believe that you can do this. It will not stop the pain and worry right away. But little by little the pain will be less often, and less.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 758147, member: 18958"] Dear Trying I am so sorry that you are suffering. I am suffering too. When we know our adult children are off the rails, I think it is impossible not to suffer, when we have direct contact with them. I know that is true for me. This is what I believe. Just as you don't want your son to be a slave to his alcoholism, almost every mother of a daughter would not want her to be in the lifestyle that your son would subject any woman too. As long as your son does not choose to enter a recovery program, this will go on, and on. Your choices to preserve your cash and your security, and to build rather than destroy your finances is reasonable and warranted. Any money that goes to your son goes to his drinking and drug use, directly and undirectly. As long as you are close in to his life, it will hurt this way. There is no way to live a life on an even keel as an alcoholic or drug addict. In my view there is NOTHING you can do and EVERYTHING he can do to work to change his situation, his life and himself. There are choices that you can make to not be the effect of his behaviors and choices. One thing you can do is to post here every day multiple times a day on your own threads and others' threads. This is what changes us. Another thing you can do is to go to Al Anon groups, online for now. This situation will not change until you recognize that you are the one who can change. But recognizing this will only come in the process of changing, that is, walking the walk. I know and I believe that you can do this. It will not stop the pain and worry right away. But little by little the pain will be less often, and less. I am sorry. [/QUOTE]
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