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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 75874" data-attributes="member: 29"><p>Susan, there is no time like the present to change. Don't beat yourself up over transgressions that might have been made in the past. It's self-defeating and demoralizing.</p><p></p><p>So start over.</p><p></p><p>Today.</p><p></p><p>I don't see any dxes in your profile for anyone in your family. Did you leave them out or maybe there aren't any? If you left them out, please add them because it might make a difference in what advice/support we give you.</p><p></p><p>If your son has no mental health/learning disability issues then you are truly doing him a disservice by continuing to coddle him. If he won't go to therapy then you need to in order to learn to extricate yourself. You need to learn how to be independent, just as much as he does.</p><p></p><p>If his feelings get hurt because he acts like a bozo...well, sorry, but too bad so sad. Welcome to the real world. It's being subjected to those hurts and JOYS (when we behave like we are supposed to) that teaches us life skills and we need those life skills in order to be successful adults.</p><p></p><p>Stop feeling sorry for him and help him stand on his own two feet. </p><p></p><p>As Fran would say, "If you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got."</p><p></p><p>Learn from the cliches that we share with you. They speak volumes.</p><p></p><p>I feel like a broken record with you in my responses and I expect some others do, too...</p><p></p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 75874, member: 29"] Susan, there is no time like the present to change. Don't beat yourself up over transgressions that might have been made in the past. It's self-defeating and demoralizing. So start over. Today. I don't see any dxes in your profile for anyone in your family. Did you leave them out or maybe there aren't any? If you left them out, please add them because it might make a difference in what advice/support we give you. If your son has no mental health/learning disability issues then you are truly doing him a disservice by continuing to coddle him. If he won't go to therapy then you need to in order to learn to extricate yourself. You need to learn how to be independent, just as much as he does. If his feelings get hurt because he acts like a bozo...well, sorry, but too bad so sad. Welcome to the real world. It's being subjected to those hurts and JOYS (when we behave like we are supposed to) that teaches us life skills and we need those life skills in order to be successful adults. Stop feeling sorry for him and help him stand on his own two feet. As Fran would say, "If you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got." Learn from the cliches that we share with you. They speak volumes. I feel like a broken record with you in my responses and I expect some others do, too... Suz [/QUOTE]
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