PatriotsGirl
Well-Known Member
difficult child texted me this morning asking if I would contact the program director at old sober house. I said I would, but that she will want to hear from difficult child. difficult child did try calling her twice on Friday but I don't know if she left a voicemail.
She tells me she has had the worst night's sleep and needs a shower. She then asked me if there was any way that I would pay for her to stay in a motel room for two nights until she saw her probation officer in two days. I refuse. I have paid for many motels and I am tired of doing that. It is a waste of money and nothing changes. I told her I would pay her admission into treatment, but that I was not blowing through thousands like I did before to only have her walk away from it all. She will have to actually look for and get a job to support herself.
She tells me, "Mommy, I intend on staying there. I can't keep worrying about this anymore. I need to focus on me and the baby. I can't be selfish anymore. I need somwhere to go for the next two days. The place I am staying at doesn't even have water."
So I ask her if she can call her Probation Officer to get recommendations, because I am concerned old Program Director won't let her back after the whole gang members were after her thing. I also give her the number to call St. Jude's Recovery - I told her to tell them she is pregnant and needs help.
So her text back is "F this, F everything, I am going to throw myself in front of a train, I want to die. I have lost everything in a week. I just want my boyfriend back. I hate having to cut to numb the pain and all I have is myself to blame."
This is very clearly manipulation at its best, right? She expected me to come rescue her and pay for her to have a place to stay and got angry when I was not about to do it. I told her that she was obviously not serious about getting help, that she was clearly trying to manipulate me into rescuing her and doing everything FOR her. I told her if she is serious about getting help, SHE needs to do the work this time. NOT ME.
Am I wrong here?
She tells me she has had the worst night's sleep and needs a shower. She then asked me if there was any way that I would pay for her to stay in a motel room for two nights until she saw her probation officer in two days. I refuse. I have paid for many motels and I am tired of doing that. It is a waste of money and nothing changes. I told her I would pay her admission into treatment, but that I was not blowing through thousands like I did before to only have her walk away from it all. She will have to actually look for and get a job to support herself.
She tells me, "Mommy, I intend on staying there. I can't keep worrying about this anymore. I need to focus on me and the baby. I can't be selfish anymore. I need somwhere to go for the next two days. The place I am staying at doesn't even have water."
So I ask her if she can call her Probation Officer to get recommendations, because I am concerned old Program Director won't let her back after the whole gang members were after her thing. I also give her the number to call St. Jude's Recovery - I told her to tell them she is pregnant and needs help.
So her text back is "F this, F everything, I am going to throw myself in front of a train, I want to die. I have lost everything in a week. I just want my boyfriend back. I hate having to cut to numb the pain and all I have is myself to blame."
This is very clearly manipulation at its best, right? She expected me to come rescue her and pay for her to have a place to stay and got angry when I was not about to do it. I told her that she was obviously not serious about getting help, that she was clearly trying to manipulate me into rescuing her and doing everything FOR her. I told her if she is serious about getting help, SHE needs to do the work this time. NOT ME.
Am I wrong here?