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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 745362" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>So agree with all of you.</p><p></p><p>You have to release yourself from thinking that YOU have any control over your son's addiction.</p><p></p><p>You have to accept the very worst that can happen here and work backwards. Yes I said that. I had to do that too.</p><p></p><p>I am trying to think of what to say that will help you and console you. Many of us have been where you are today. I certainly have. </p><p></p><p>The worst part to me is understanding that the disease of addiction makes the addict think they don't need help. It is a cruel and EVIL disease for all involved.</p><p></p><p>I do think that my son was full of evil when he was addicted. I feel like I could see the evil. It was so hard for me to separate the person from the addiction. I still have a hard time with that but I am trying.</p><p></p><p>There is no magic answer for any of us. I only wish there was. I certainly searched long and hard for it.</p><p></p><p>My only advice is to see a therapist that specialized in addiction to help you create firm boundaries with your son and to help you cope. To help you understand that "helping" can actually hurt in the long run. We have to be taught and <strong>learn </strong>how to deal with this. It isn't a natural thing for mothers.</p><p></p><p>And the most important thing that I did was pray. I prayed for seven long years wondering if anyone heard me. I wondered what I had done that caused me to be suffering so badly watching our son destroy himself. I questioned every single thing in my entire life. </p><p></p><p>I was very fortunate because my prayers were answered and in some ways I feel like all the pain was worth it. My son is now living a normal life. One day at a time and baby steps but I could not see this in our future before this. Don't ever give up hope.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 745362, member: 15032"] So agree with all of you. You have to release yourself from thinking that YOU have any control over your son's addiction. You have to accept the very worst that can happen here and work backwards. Yes I said that. I had to do that too. I am trying to think of what to say that will help you and console you. Many of us have been where you are today. I certainly have. The worst part to me is understanding that the disease of addiction makes the addict think they don't need help. It is a cruel and EVIL disease for all involved. I do think that my son was full of evil when he was addicted. I feel like I could see the evil. It was so hard for me to separate the person from the addiction. I still have a hard time with that but I am trying. There is no magic answer for any of us. I only wish there was. I certainly searched long and hard for it. My only advice is to see a therapist that specialized in addiction to help you create firm boundaries with your son and to help you cope. To help you understand that "helping" can actually hurt in the long run. We have to be taught and [B]learn [/B]how to deal with this. It isn't a natural thing for mothers. And the most important thing that I did was pray. I prayed for seven long years wondering if anyone heard me. I wondered what I had done that caused me to be suffering so badly watching our son destroy himself. I questioned every single thing in my entire life. I was very fortunate because my prayers were answered and in some ways I feel like all the pain was worth it. My son is now living a normal life. One day at a time and baby steps but I could not see this in our future before this. Don't ever give up hope. [/QUOTE]
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