So I got a call from him today on his way home from IOP. He's been feeling still depressed for last three weeks. Saw p doctor today who added Welbutrin to his drug regieme. Now he says that his depression is related in a big way to the restrictive environment of the recovery home/treatment center where he resides.
It is located in a cluster of old houses that are no frills but are kept clean by the clients and in good repair. There is no cable, internet access and cellphones are only allowed during business hours when client is at work or on the job hunt. Client is not allowed off the property unless he has a job. There are curfews, of course. Visiting hours restricted to Sunday afternoon. Daily group and AA meetings of course are mandatory. Excellent counseling/treatment. 500.00 a month. He's been there a total of 8 months.
difficult child wants to be able to go out and play basketball or go out to dinner with his cousin (two examples he gave). (Never mind that he has very little spending money). SSI benefits have not started. Job search ineffectual. States he's tried a few temp agencies. Had interview two weeks ago but felt he did not do well. Feels he is hampered by the hours taken up by therapy and groups which he feels he needs. Trying for evening part time job but no luck so far. His counselor says he seems more focused on the job hunt. But maybe not enough.
I told him to hold on till after the new year when I think the IOP will be over and he will be more available during the day. Then maybe he will be able to get some kind of job and move up to three quarters.
So, do you think it's manipulation? Or should we look into a place with high speed internet at least?
He's been taking two buses to intensive outpatient, participating in group and has been sober for 2 months. (to recap, he was sober from March to September until he got moved up to three quarters, lost his job, and started abusing his ADHD medication resulting in 2 more hospitalizations for medication induced psychosis which took a good 6 weeks to completely resolve itself) So he has been actively participating in his treatment, but this job thing...
And another thing is his fractured relationship with his dad, who has been sending him encouraging and conciliatory texts which are never answered...doesn't want to see dad because dad makes him anxious...my husband is a good guy whose only mistake was to try to set firm limits with our son. He has a close relationship with our daughter.
It seems his depression is situational, or is it manipulation? He is sick of the place. He's been there 9 months, if you don't count the hospitalizations in Sept-Oct. Less inclined to fork over more money for another place since he treats dad so poorly ( or is this mental illness and we should just suck it up?)
It is located in a cluster of old houses that are no frills but are kept clean by the clients and in good repair. There is no cable, internet access and cellphones are only allowed during business hours when client is at work or on the job hunt. Client is not allowed off the property unless he has a job. There are curfews, of course. Visiting hours restricted to Sunday afternoon. Daily group and AA meetings of course are mandatory. Excellent counseling/treatment. 500.00 a month. He's been there a total of 8 months.
difficult child wants to be able to go out and play basketball or go out to dinner with his cousin (two examples he gave). (Never mind that he has very little spending money). SSI benefits have not started. Job search ineffectual. States he's tried a few temp agencies. Had interview two weeks ago but felt he did not do well. Feels he is hampered by the hours taken up by therapy and groups which he feels he needs. Trying for evening part time job but no luck so far. His counselor says he seems more focused on the job hunt. But maybe not enough.
I told him to hold on till after the new year when I think the IOP will be over and he will be more available during the day. Then maybe he will be able to get some kind of job and move up to three quarters.
So, do you think it's manipulation? Or should we look into a place with high speed internet at least?
He's been taking two buses to intensive outpatient, participating in group and has been sober for 2 months. (to recap, he was sober from March to September until he got moved up to three quarters, lost his job, and started abusing his ADHD medication resulting in 2 more hospitalizations for medication induced psychosis which took a good 6 weeks to completely resolve itself) So he has been actively participating in his treatment, but this job thing...
And another thing is his fractured relationship with his dad, who has been sending him encouraging and conciliatory texts which are never answered...doesn't want to see dad because dad makes him anxious...my husband is a good guy whose only mistake was to try to set firm limits with our son. He has a close relationship with our daughter.
It seems his depression is situational, or is it manipulation? He is sick of the place. He's been there 9 months, if you don't count the hospitalizations in Sept-Oct. Less inclined to fork over more money for another place since he treats dad so poorly ( or is this mental illness and we should just suck it up?)