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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 728974" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am not sure, but I think Gabi may be talking about the trauma a very young infant and child acquires when the caregiver she has to trust is unavailable or abusive. Reactive Attachment Disorder is common in adopted kids so adoptive parents usually know about it, but it is becoming more common in biological k ids too as parents divorce young and some are not responsible. Sounds like this kid had tough early years. There is help for attachment problems, but it is hard to find a good mental health professional who knows what to do. I would read books by Nancy Thomas if this resonates with you.</p><p></p><p>I am not saying this is her problem. It is a possibility that maybe you want to learn about and explore and if it does resonate there are many books that can help you, even if you have trouble finding a therapist who knows enough about it to diagnose it or help. You should not have to handle this child alone. This is unfair of your husband. Can he not look for another job? After all, this is his child and her welfare and she was already cheated out of quality time by an addicted mother. She needs her father to be involved too. No matter what is causing this, she needs her father, not just you. You are TERRIFIC, but she needs to feel like her father cares since her mother let her down. Do you have other kids whom you feel she may harm?</p><p></p><p>I would use therapy, not the police unless she is being violent. I agree she is too young...violence or drugs would be my only reason to go to the cops for a twelve year old. I might add that attachment disorder looks almost exactly like Conduct Disorder. Only the cause is different so it may require different treatment. And do take ALL the bulbs out of her room and put an alarm on her door so she wakes you up whenever she leaves the room at night, even to go to the bathroom. in my opinion it is not safe for her to be able to wander around the house at night. How is she with animals? Does she LIKE fire? Does she pee or p oop in inappropriate places? Most people who develop psychopathy do all three of those things as a child, plus have no conscience, which is serious and troubling.</p><p></p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc7lVxUdfIs" target="_blank">Reactive Attachment Disorder</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 728974, member: 1550"] I am not sure, but I think Gabi may be talking about the trauma a very young infant and child acquires when the caregiver she has to trust is unavailable or abusive. Reactive Attachment Disorder is common in adopted kids so adoptive parents usually know about it, but it is becoming more common in biological k ids too as parents divorce young and some are not responsible. Sounds like this kid had tough early years. There is help for attachment problems, but it is hard to find a good mental health professional who knows what to do. I would read books by Nancy Thomas if this resonates with you. I am not saying this is her problem. It is a possibility that maybe you want to learn about and explore and if it does resonate there are many books that can help you, even if you have trouble finding a therapist who knows enough about it to diagnose it or help. You should not have to handle this child alone. This is unfair of your husband. Can he not look for another job? After all, this is his child and her welfare and she was already cheated out of quality time by an addicted mother. She needs her father to be involved too. No matter what is causing this, she needs her father, not just you. You are TERRIFIC, but she needs to feel like her father cares since her mother let her down. Do you have other kids whom you feel she may harm? I would use therapy, not the police unless she is being violent. I agree she is too young...violence or drugs would be my only reason to go to the cops for a twelve year old. I might add that attachment disorder looks almost exactly like Conduct Disorder. Only the cause is different so it may require different treatment. And do take ALL the bulbs out of her room and put an alarm on her door so she wakes you up whenever she leaves the room at night, even to go to the bathroom. in my opinion it is not safe for her to be able to wander around the house at night. How is she with animals? Does she LIKE fire? Does she pee or p oop in inappropriate places? Most people who develop psychopathy do all three of those things as a child, plus have no conscience, which is serious and troubling. [URL="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc7lVxUdfIs"]Reactive Attachment Disorder[/URL] [/QUOTE]
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