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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 69550"><p>I wish I could say the materialistic thing is age relevant. It's not. Another always been that way thing. I couldn't even go to the gas station without her thinking she had to get something. Sometimes I think she's trying to fill some emptiness inside by having stuff. I don't know.</p><p></p><p>A couple Christmas' ago, all day long she came up to me, hugged me and told me it was the best Christmas ever. Later that night, the batteries in her game died and all of a sudden it was the worst Christmas ever. I quit asking her how her day was at school because the answer was, "awful", "horrible", or "the worst day ever", yet when I talked to the teacher's they all said she had a good day. Instead I started asking her what she had done in school that day. If I disagree with her, I'm being mean to her. If I agree with her, I love her. Very split thinking. It's exhausting.</p><p></p><p>I weigh my words so carefully around her. Last night, though, I didn't. I am stretched very thin financially and she KNOWS this. She already has on her list of requests (and I use that word because it's nicer) for when I have more money a desk, chair, lamp and the Sims 2 game. Last night she came down talking about a cell phone. *I* don't have a cell phone. She did start off by saying when I can afford it, but I'm stressed about the financial situation and one more demand/request/whatever was more than I could take. I've got easy child in one ear wanting his license and am trying to figure out how I'm going to get him a car so he can get a job, etc (cause his dad said he won't help unless he lives with him...another story) and difficult child in the other wanting more stuff and I'm just figuring out how to buy groceries. So, I told difficult child last night that I don't want to hear about anything else she wants until after we move. Not an unreasonable request. But, of course I was mean and I hated her. Sigh...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 69550"] I wish I could say the materialistic thing is age relevant. It's not. Another always been that way thing. I couldn't even go to the gas station without her thinking she had to get something. Sometimes I think she's trying to fill some emptiness inside by having stuff. I don't know. A couple Christmas' ago, all day long she came up to me, hugged me and told me it was the best Christmas ever. Later that night, the batteries in her game died and all of a sudden it was the worst Christmas ever. I quit asking her how her day was at school because the answer was, "awful", "horrible", or "the worst day ever", yet when I talked to the teacher's they all said she had a good day. Instead I started asking her what she had done in school that day. If I disagree with her, I'm being mean to her. If I agree with her, I love her. Very split thinking. It's exhausting. I weigh my words so carefully around her. Last night, though, I didn't. I am stretched very thin financially and she KNOWS this. She already has on her list of requests (and I use that word because it's nicer) for when I have more money a desk, chair, lamp and the Sims 2 game. Last night she came down talking about a cell phone. *I* don't have a cell phone. She did start off by saying when I can afford it, but I'm stressed about the financial situation and one more demand/request/whatever was more than I could take. I've got easy child in one ear wanting his license and am trying to figure out how I'm going to get him a car so he can get a job, etc (cause his dad said he won't help unless he lives with him...another story) and difficult child in the other wanting more stuff and I'm just figuring out how to buy groceries. So, I told difficult child last night that I don't want to hear about anything else she wants until after we move. Not an unreasonable request. But, of course I was mean and I hated her. Sigh... [/QUOTE]
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