Have you read up on residual effects of lack of early nurturing? He could have attachment problems.
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, serif]What happens if this window of opportunity is missed?[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, serif]The impact of impaired bonding in early childhood varies. With severe emotional neglect in early childhood the impact can be devastating. Children without touch, stimulation, and nurturing can literally lose the capacity to form any meaningful relationships for the rest of their lives. Fortunately, most children do not suffer this degree of severe neglect. There are, however, many millions of children who have some degree of impaired bonding and attachment during early childhood. The problems that result from this can range from mild interpersonal discomfort to profound social and emotional problems. In general, the severity of problems is related to how early in life, how prolonged, and how severe the emotional neglect has been.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, serif]This does not mean that children with these experiences have no hope to develop normal relationships. Very little is known about the ability of replacement experiences later in life to "replace" or repair the undeveloped or poorly organized bonding and attachment capabilities. Clinical experiences and a number of studies suggest that improvement can take place, but it is a long, difficult, and frustrating process for families and children. It may take many years of hard work to help repair the damage from only a few months of neglect in infancy.
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I would find a psychiatrist who is used to working with children who were adopted at older ages. Some of his issues, if not most, are likely related to that. Just a guess from experience. Most psychiatrists don't catch it because they aren't used to looking for it or they don't understand it.
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