Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Never say never...please don't make crass
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 24327" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>I agree, Linda. When I joined the board in '99, Fran's signature said her difficult child had been in EGBS for 18 months. I remember thinking to myself, "I could *never* do that." Funny how things come back to bite you sometimes... here we are after 81 months in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and thank you is still out of the home with no end in sight. I suspect that by the time he hits 18, he will have spent a full half of his childhood in institutions.</p><p></p><p>Ideally, we wouldn't have to get our kids in the system because we do lose the ability to make choices and have control sometimes. But... I firmly believe that when a parent considers getting a child in the system it's because there are simply no other options. My gosh, when I think of all the police reports we filed, of calling prosecutors to *beg* them to charge thank you, begging psychiatrists and SWs and school officials and insurance companies... we left no stone unturned. We considered moving to IN because *there* at least we had a darn good chance of getting thank you into court-ordered Residential Treatment Center (RTC) sooner. We would have had to give up custody but realistically we were running out of options and fast.</p><p></p><p>It's easy to say after the fact that getting involved in the system was a bad idea, especially if you have not had a good experience. But I think it does a disservice to parents who have traveled the same path, and parents who ultimately *will* have to follow the same path. Again, I don't believe it is ever a choice that is easily made and more often than not, I believe it's a choice made out of desperation because there is simply nothing left to choose from.</p><p></p><p>It may work out, it may turn out to be the experience from h*ll. Good intentions and all that... none of us itentionally wanted to get involved in an intrusive, overloaded, unresponsive "system". Not all of us ended up in a system like that. We do the very best we can with what is in front of us (or more truthfully, with the resources that we scrounge for without guidance or help). When we cannot deal with our child's behaviors, when the hospitalizations and therapy and medications and Special Education don't begin to touch what for some of us are children who are truly dangers to themselves and/or others, we have to do what we can.</p><p></p><p>*Never* say never.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 24327, member: 8"] I agree, Linda. When I joined the board in '99, Fran's signature said her difficult child had been in EGBS for 18 months. I remember thinking to myself, "I could *never* do that." Funny how things come back to bite you sometimes... here we are after 81 months in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and thank you is still out of the home with no end in sight. I suspect that by the time he hits 18, he will have spent a full half of his childhood in institutions. Ideally, we wouldn't have to get our kids in the system because we do lose the ability to make choices and have control sometimes. But... I firmly believe that when a parent considers getting a child in the system it's because there are simply no other options. My gosh, when I think of all the police reports we filed, of calling prosecutors to *beg* them to charge thank you, begging psychiatrists and SWs and school officials and insurance companies... we left no stone unturned. We considered moving to IN because *there* at least we had a darn good chance of getting thank you into court-ordered Residential Treatment Center (RTC) sooner. We would have had to give up custody but realistically we were running out of options and fast. It's easy to say after the fact that getting involved in the system was a bad idea, especially if you have not had a good experience. But I think it does a disservice to parents who have traveled the same path, and parents who ultimately *will* have to follow the same path. Again, I don't believe it is ever a choice that is easily made and more often than not, I believe it's a choice made out of desperation because there is simply nothing left to choose from. It may work out, it may turn out to be the experience from h*ll. Good intentions and all that... none of us itentionally wanted to get involved in an intrusive, overloaded, unresponsive "system". Not all of us ended up in a system like that. We do the very best we can with what is in front of us (or more truthfully, with the resources that we scrounge for without guidance or help). When we cannot deal with our child's behaviors, when the hospitalizations and therapy and medications and Special Education don't begin to touch what for some of us are children who are truly dangers to themselves and/or others, we have to do what we can. *Never* say never. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Never say never...please don't make crass
Top