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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 53629" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm not sure what to tell you. My daughter was arrested twice by age 18 and on probation twice (drugs). I couldn't afford a lawyer and frankly didn't want to get her off--I wanted her to be scared and learn. She did. She's 23 and clean.</p><p>If you think your son may have a drinking problem, from experience, college isn't a really good place for peer-driven, substance using kids--not at a dorm anyways. There isn't any supervision and many kids go wild without it. My daughter had to go to school and live at home. She only went for two years, but got her degree and did great without getting more steeped in the drugs and drinking. Do you think your son will be ok if he lives away from home? Are the living accomodations on your dime? I would make going away to school conditional upon his behavior with you promising to make surprise visits. </p><p>On the bright side, if this stops now, he really hasn't gone half as far as most of our kids. He just sounds like he's easily influenced, and that would worry me with living away from home looming close...</p><p>Does he have a diagnosis? Ever been to a psychiatrist or therapy? Do you feel he drinks too much? A DUI for my daughter would have meant the loss of her license. I was not lenient about the time she in an accident and drunk. She had zilch sympathy from us and she didn't drive again until she moved out, cleaned up, and got her own car. Glad you found us. I"m sure many have opinions on this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 53629, member: 1550"] I'm not sure what to tell you. My daughter was arrested twice by age 18 and on probation twice (drugs). I couldn't afford a lawyer and frankly didn't want to get her off--I wanted her to be scared and learn. She did. She's 23 and clean. If you think your son may have a drinking problem, from experience, college isn't a really good place for peer-driven, substance using kids--not at a dorm anyways. There isn't any supervision and many kids go wild without it. My daughter had to go to school and live at home. She only went for two years, but got her degree and did great without getting more steeped in the drugs and drinking. Do you think your son will be ok if he lives away from home? Are the living accomodations on your dime? I would make going away to school conditional upon his behavior with you promising to make surprise visits. On the bright side, if this stops now, he really hasn't gone half as far as most of our kids. He just sounds like he's easily influenced, and that would worry me with living away from home looming close... Does he have a diagnosis? Ever been to a psychiatrist or therapy? Do you feel he drinks too much? A DUI for my daughter would have meant the loss of her license. I was not lenient about the time she in an accident and drunk. She had zilch sympathy from us and she didn't drive again until she moved out, cleaned up, and got her own car. Glad you found us. I"m sure many have opinions on this. [/QUOTE]
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