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<blockquote data-quote="Hearache" data-source="post: 53637" data-attributes="member: 3843"><p>I am very hesitant to let him go away to school. He won't know anyone at the school, but will make friends that he plays sports with. I am wanting him to get away from this group of friends that he has here. I am aware, though, that trouble can be found anywhere. </p><p></p><p>When I went to the police station to pick him up, they wouldn't release him till 5am, so he sat there all night (I sat in the waiting room from 1am till 5). He wouldn't take a breathalizer test - so they held him till "sober". They said he was "really drunk". I think he sat back there crying the whole time. When he came out I sat down the "rules" and told him if he couldn't abide by them that he could just start walking and didn't need to come home. I was trying to use tough love with him. </p><p></p><p>He is able to drive on a temporary appeal license, but he doesn't know that. He thinks he can't drive and I am just letting him believe that. The car has been taken away from him - permanently. I think the girlfriend is slowly fading away - he's not been out with her except for "getting a slurpie" - she drove. </p><p></p><p>Not sure how much he has been drinking - before this his curfew was 1am - which he always kept - when I did monitor him when he came in, I didn't notice any drinking. </p><p></p><p>He's never been to counseling - I'm thinking about it now. It does seem like this child has to learn lessons the hard way. It's like he has gone out of his way to do the opposite of what we tell him. </p><p></p><p>I'm a nurse who works in an ICU and I get to see all the drunk drivers who suffer from car accidents. I see the worst of it - it terrifies me. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for all the advice - I need it! Helps to know that I am not alone. I just can't talk to my friends about this - I don't want them to think bad of my son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hearache, post: 53637, member: 3843"] I am very hesitant to let him go away to school. He won't know anyone at the school, but will make friends that he plays sports with. I am wanting him to get away from this group of friends that he has here. I am aware, though, that trouble can be found anywhere. When I went to the police station to pick him up, they wouldn't release him till 5am, so he sat there all night (I sat in the waiting room from 1am till 5). He wouldn't take a breathalizer test - so they held him till "sober". They said he was "really drunk". I think he sat back there crying the whole time. When he came out I sat down the "rules" and told him if he couldn't abide by them that he could just start walking and didn't need to come home. I was trying to use tough love with him. He is able to drive on a temporary appeal license, but he doesn't know that. He thinks he can't drive and I am just letting him believe that. The car has been taken away from him - permanently. I think the girlfriend is slowly fading away - he's not been out with her except for "getting a slurpie" - she drove. Not sure how much he has been drinking - before this his curfew was 1am - which he always kept - when I did monitor him when he came in, I didn't notice any drinking. He's never been to counseling - I'm thinking about it now. It does seem like this child has to learn lessons the hard way. It's like he has gone out of his way to do the opposite of what we tell him. I'm a nurse who works in an ICU and I get to see all the drunk drivers who suffer from car accidents. I see the worst of it - it terrifies me. Thanks for all the advice - I need it! Helps to know that I am not alone. I just can't talk to my friends about this - I don't want them to think bad of my son. [/QUOTE]
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