Soccerwife
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I am new here and I have started looking for help because I feel like I can't parent my 3-year-old without it. I feel like I am a horrible parent and I really just don't know what to do. I am really at my wits end with my 3-year-old. He is so moody and will lash out at you if you say or do the wrong thing. He hits me and punches me and doesn't think anything of it. He is constantly deliberately disobeying when you ask him not to do something (and when you ask him to help) and he does things that he knows are wrong but he just doesn't seem to care. I'll ask him not to do something, and then 5 minutes later, he's back to doing the same thing. He incredibly sneaky as well.
I feel like I have tried everything with him and I don't know what else to do. I put him in time out and sometimes he stays and sometimes he doesn't. And 9 times out of 10, he'll go right back to doing the exact thing I put him in time out for as soon as I let him out. I've tried yelling, I've tried asking nicely, I've tried talking to him about why the behaviors aren't appropriate, I've tried positive reinforcement, I've tried distraction and removing him from the situations - I don't know what else to do. I'm tired and I've even had thoughts of just giving up with him. I know 3-year-olds like to test the waters, but this is far beyond just testing the waters - I really don't think this behavior is normal.
I really think I need to get my 3-year-old in to see a psychiatrist or something and I wanted to ask your advice to see if you think this even warrants getting help for him. I have been reading up on things and he kind of seems like he may have a combination of ADHD and ODD, but I just don't know.
I feel like I'm a horrible parent because nothing has worked and I don't know what else to do with him. I have an older son and I feel so badly that all my attention has to go to my youngest because he is making a mess or getting into something or causing drama every which way I turn. Every day I am home alone with my youngest, I just want a break that never seems to come. I can't just put a movie on for him and take a time out because I can't trust that he is going to sit there and watch it. I can't sit and play a game with him because if something goes wrong, pieces go flying and he'll storm off.
I'm tired and I feel like I can't do it anymore with him. My husband doesn't get it because my 3-year-old acts differently when heis around, and to tell you the truth, my husband is not around enough to really know what I am going through. I have been dreading going home and being around my youngest and it breaks my heart and makes me feel like I am a complete failure because I love him so much, but at the same time, I feel like don't know how to parent him and don't know what else to do.
Please help!
I feel like I have tried everything with him and I don't know what else to do. I put him in time out and sometimes he stays and sometimes he doesn't. And 9 times out of 10, he'll go right back to doing the exact thing I put him in time out for as soon as I let him out. I've tried yelling, I've tried asking nicely, I've tried talking to him about why the behaviors aren't appropriate, I've tried positive reinforcement, I've tried distraction and removing him from the situations - I don't know what else to do. I'm tired and I've even had thoughts of just giving up with him. I know 3-year-olds like to test the waters, but this is far beyond just testing the waters - I really don't think this behavior is normal.
I really think I need to get my 3-year-old in to see a psychiatrist or something and I wanted to ask your advice to see if you think this even warrants getting help for him. I have been reading up on things and he kind of seems like he may have a combination of ADHD and ODD, but I just don't know.
I feel like I'm a horrible parent because nothing has worked and I don't know what else to do with him. I have an older son and I feel so badly that all my attention has to go to my youngest because he is making a mess or getting into something or causing drama every which way I turn. Every day I am home alone with my youngest, I just want a break that never seems to come. I can't just put a movie on for him and take a time out because I can't trust that he is going to sit there and watch it. I can't sit and play a game with him because if something goes wrong, pieces go flying and he'll storm off.
I'm tired and I feel like I can't do it anymore with him. My husband doesn't get it because my 3-year-old acts differently when heis around, and to tell you the truth, my husband is not around enough to really know what I am going through. I have been dreading going home and being around my youngest and it breaks my heart and makes me feel like I am a complete failure because I love him so much, but at the same time, I feel like don't know how to parent him and don't know what else to do.
Please help!