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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 705224" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome Forrestsmom. </p><p></p><p>You might try contacting NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have excellent courses for parents that will offer you not only support, but guidance and resources for yourself as well as your son. You can access them online they have offices in many cities. It usually becomes useful and often necessary for us parents to seek help to figure out how to walk this path we find ourselves on. It isn't easy. </p><p></p><p>You have a lot on your plate in addition to your son's behaviors, it may be helpful to seek some kind of counseling for yourself during this difficult time in your life. Many parents here find solace in 12 step groups like Al Anon, Narc Anon and Families Anonymous. A good book to reference is Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie. You may also find some information in the article at the end of my post here on detachment. </p><p></p><p>We've all made mistakes with our precious children, there's no manual for parenting difficult adult kids, we wing it doing the very best we can and many times our kids use our guilt to manipulate us. It's helpful when we are in supportive environments like a parent group, 12 step group or a NAMI group so we can see that we're not alone, we can begin to let go of that guilt and find the resources we need to make whatever changes may be necessary to not only make the best choices for our kids, but the best choices for ourselves as well.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there Forrestsmom, keep posting, find support for yourself, read books........you're not alone, we've all been where you find yourself.......and remember to be very kind to yourself, nurture yourself......you don't deserve to be treated badly, with our kids it becomes important to learn how to set boundaries around their negative and hurtful behavior. I'm glad you're here with us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 705224, member: 13542"] Welcome Forrestsmom. You might try contacting NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have excellent courses for parents that will offer you not only support, but guidance and resources for yourself as well as your son. You can access them online they have offices in many cities. It usually becomes useful and often necessary for us parents to seek help to figure out how to walk this path we find ourselves on. It isn't easy. You have a lot on your plate in addition to your son's behaviors, it may be helpful to seek some kind of counseling for yourself during this difficult time in your life. Many parents here find solace in 12 step groups like Al Anon, Narc Anon and Families Anonymous. A good book to reference is Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie. You may also find some information in the article at the end of my post here on detachment. We've all made mistakes with our precious children, there's no manual for parenting difficult adult kids, we wing it doing the very best we can and many times our kids use our guilt to manipulate us. It's helpful when we are in supportive environments like a parent group, 12 step group or a NAMI group so we can see that we're not alone, we can begin to let go of that guilt and find the resources we need to make whatever changes may be necessary to not only make the best choices for our kids, but the best choices for ourselves as well. Hang in there Forrestsmom, keep posting, find support for yourself, read books........you're not alone, we've all been where you find yourself.......and remember to be very kind to yourself, nurture yourself......you don't deserve to be treated badly, with our kids it becomes important to learn how to set boundaries around their negative and hurtful behavior. I'm glad you're here with us. [/QUOTE]
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