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I am Brad, a working father, married to Anne, a stay at home mom and former lawyer, with a 6-year old daughter Mindy and a 3-year old son Kaleb. I stumbled on this site using Google and could not find anything directly on point to my problem, though I am afraid I do not understand all of the lingo so maybe I missed something?
My daughter is happy, healthy, creative (often leads make believe play at home and at school), does well in school and developmentally (physically and mentally) where she should be if not ahead. But - well, she has these violent outbursts. These sometimes involve scratching, hitting, punching but more often just words - words like "I want to cut your head off and drink your blood" and "I want to kill you" or "I am going to kill you." We have known for a while that she has some sensory processing issues, but nothing that has ever convinced us that we should start pursuing the clinical level with doctors. But we are starting to reconsider since it is not getting a lot better.
A school therapist noticed she gets fidgety with lots of stimulation and will touch her face a lot. The therapist suggested crunchy snacks and jumping rope a lot. Right. A huge help.
My wife has tried everything and read everything (truly) and is at her wits end. She gets the brunt of it, both physical and words. To me, it feels like she has some impulse control issues and that we can help direct these but that there is nothing to be freaked out about. My wife says we / she has been doing that for almost 7 years and we need help -- more tools -- so we can help my daughter in developing through this.
So, I just don't even know the right words to talk about this, whether there is a problem here I should be worried about and, if so, what to even do about it. If any of you can help, it would be much appreciated.
Thank you.
My daughter is happy, healthy, creative (often leads make believe play at home and at school), does well in school and developmentally (physically and mentally) where she should be if not ahead. But - well, she has these violent outbursts. These sometimes involve scratching, hitting, punching but more often just words - words like "I want to cut your head off and drink your blood" and "I want to kill you" or "I am going to kill you." We have known for a while that she has some sensory processing issues, but nothing that has ever convinced us that we should start pursuing the clinical level with doctors. But we are starting to reconsider since it is not getting a lot better.
A school therapist noticed she gets fidgety with lots of stimulation and will touch her face a lot. The therapist suggested crunchy snacks and jumping rope a lot. Right. A huge help.
My wife has tried everything and read everything (truly) and is at her wits end. She gets the brunt of it, both physical and words. To me, it feels like she has some impulse control issues and that we can help direct these but that there is nothing to be freaked out about. My wife says we / she has been doing that for almost 7 years and we need help -- more tools -- so we can help my daughter in developing through this.
So, I just don't even know the right words to talk about this, whether there is a problem here I should be worried about and, if so, what to even do about it. If any of you can help, it would be much appreciated.
Thank you.