My name is TJ. I have a 8 year old difficult child Noah who is on concerta and doing well with ADHD. I have a 3.5 year old son Dakota who is having SO many problems. I cannot control this boy no matter what I do. He has tantrums, will NOT listen to anything anyone says. He will do the total opposite of what we tell him and then look at you and smile. He wants everything his way and NOW. He won't cooperate in church. He tears everything up. He kicks and bites and hits people. No timeouts, or spanking or taking EVERY toy he has away has ANY effect on him. He goes right back to the behavior 2 minutes later. I don't know what else to do with him. I have him in behavior therapy(not working) and on Clonidine to help him sleep at night. He sees a psyc doctor who tells me they can't do anything until he is 4 and in pre-k. I don't really want him on medications but I am SO tired I don't know what else to do. I feel like the worlds worst parent. I think thoughts I should not be thiking. I love him so very much but at times I can't stand to be around him. He is making life miserable for us. He is making my 8 year olds life miserable. He hits him, takes toys away, breaks his stuff, etc. I don't know what else to do. Every form of discipline has failed. I have tried it all. I thought tons of praise might have an impact but it didn't even phase him. It is like he don't understand anything. And there is more..he was doing really well going to the potty for a long time and now he has started going in his pants again. And he will lie when I aski him if he has to go. I will take him in there and he won't go and then he will turn around and go in his pants and laugh about it. He can't start pre-k if he isn't fully trained. Can anyone please help me or tell some things I can do?? I feel like I am going crazy. I am a prisoner in my home. Any feedback would help! Thanks for listening!