Hi Everyone: I am new here. I have 2 boys. 11 year old who is adhd and 8 year with no clinical diagnosis. It's the 8 year old that I'm here for. He's always been difficult. He's argumentative, defiant, unhelpful, rude...but of course he can be a real sweetheart too. He's in the 2nd grade. He was suspended in the Fall for hitting a girl in the face. In class this year he seems to be doing fine. He has his problems on the playground. We seemed to have a good streak going (at least from what I knew.) But, today we stayed after school to play on the playground. I had my eye on him. He was playing with a group of kids mostly 2nd graders and 5th graders (incluidng my older son). I could tell something was going on with a girl because she was kind of chasing him and it looked like other kids were egging them on. I decided it was time to leave. Turns out one of the 5th graders was relaying messages between my 2nd grader and the 2nd grade girl. One of the things he said was that he wanted to rape her, which the 5ht grader passed on. I was livid. It also made my stomach hurt and I wanted to cry. I can't get him to understand that things like that are totally unacceptable. I'm sure he doesn't fully understand what rape is, but he's heard older kids say it. Our school is full of parents who talk and gossip, so since the incident in the Fall I haven't felt super comfortable at school except around my closer friends. Maybe I'm projecting, but I feel like the moms, and mostly the moms of the girls, avoid me. In any case, amazing how a day can go from being great to crappy. I can't until Monday, because I'm sure the girl will tell her parents and my son will be suspended again. We've been to a psychologist before. There was no formal clinical diagnosis. I think we may need to see him again. Thanks for listening!