Have not posted in a bit...half afraid to turn my back on the boys. Daniel, my older 10 yr old now has a new diagnosis to add to the rest Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). At first I thought the therapist was looney tunes but after reading up on it and looking back on Daniel's past...it fits. My son and his late ex-wife were CGs for 3 wks after his birth, then her parents were for 7 wks, then me mainly, then I had a houseful while remodeling and lots of people here to sit. Then when little David was in the hospital out of the area I was there and there were more sitters. Once I adopted my grandsons and they became my sons it became me as their cg 95-100% of the time. Daniel has gotten to where he will follow me anywhere I go in this house. I have to slam the bathroom door to keep him away. If I lay on my bed to watch tv he is heading in there to join me. With it being summer and worse...my car has been broken down for two wks now....I can't seem to get away for some ME time. Okay...I have explained the birds and bees to him, we have gone through books and talked about how sex is something for adults that love each other and is very special. So why the heck is this child calling me "babe" "honey" and acting inappropiately towards me?? I am sure that he is curious about sex and am willing to answer questions for him but his acting out is bothering me. I have discussed this with the therapist and he is concerned also. See...With David being a big brother idolizer most of the time I am worried that Daniel will try something with David. Actually he told me he kissed David on the lips. I told him that this was not something that brothers did and told David that if Daniel asks him about private parts or to do something with private parts to scream for me. So I try to watch them ALL the time. Residential care is still being discussed at this point. I am so pulled about this but know that it may be the best thing for all of us. I did finally get my point across about having Daniel Baker Acted again (Marchment Act in some places). The place he would have to go, well I raised holy heck with them last time he was there because they used Daniel's private medications for other patients. I filed a complaint with the adminsitration and heads rolled there like bowling balls. Since our surname is uncommon I am sure that he would be remembered and told therapist of my concern of retaliation against him. Therp said that I am to contact him if a severe problem arises and he will have him put in residential immediately rather then him go back there. At this point waiting for school to start and praying that some of these behaviors I am putting up with both the boys these past few weeks is due to boredom and cabin fever.