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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 695570" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>Jodiehooks- I know you are weary with worry and wondering how much should you help daughter. It sounds like it would be a good job if she can keep it. YOU did the right thing by calling the Pastor.</p><p></p><p>Help with what you are comfortable doing- knowing that you will not get any money back in order to get her on her feet. WE all have helped our adult children in some shape, matter or form. Sometimes, it has bit us big time, other times, it was the help at the right time of their lives when they were willing to make positive changes in their life. </p><p></p><p>You know your daughter best and know her past. ARE you comfortable helping her with the car, apartment, one or the other or both? If you are and are financially able, then do so. Just know that you can't expect to be repaid, unless, if you cosign, you make her sign a promissary note, legally. I have helped son over the years, sometimes to my and his detriment. I learned after many mistakes, to set boundarries for helping. He is finally landed in a good place after many years of chaos and homelessness and couch surfing in some bad places. He is now not homeless and has a Pastor for a landlord and a mentor. </p><p></p><p>I am not sure if you have helped her in the past only to have been burned before- only you know. But if you feel she is ready on a right path, truly, and needs one time help and you are comfortable helping her get there, then do so. If not, that is ok too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 695570, member: 19951"] Jodiehooks- I know you are weary with worry and wondering how much should you help daughter. It sounds like it would be a good job if she can keep it. YOU did the right thing by calling the Pastor. Help with what you are comfortable doing- knowing that you will not get any money back in order to get her on her feet. WE all have helped our adult children in some shape, matter or form. Sometimes, it has bit us big time, other times, it was the help at the right time of their lives when they were willing to make positive changes in their life. You know your daughter best and know her past. ARE you comfortable helping her with the car, apartment, one or the other or both? If you are and are financially able, then do so. Just know that you can't expect to be repaid, unless, if you cosign, you make her sign a promissary note, legally. I have helped son over the years, sometimes to my and his detriment. I learned after many mistakes, to set boundarries for helping. He is finally landed in a good place after many years of chaos and homelessness and couch surfing in some bad places. He is now not homeless and has a Pastor for a landlord and a mentor. I am not sure if you have helped her in the past only to have been burned before- only you know. But if you feel she is ready on a right path, truly, and needs one time help and you are comfortable helping her get there, then do so. If not, that is ok too. [/QUOTE]
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