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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 695619" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>IB. <em>When you talk about me behind my back, I get sad</em>. (Joke.)</p><p>Jodie. It looks like there is a split decision in the posters.</p><p></p><p>I want to add one other option: when you rent a room to share on craigslist from another party (who either had the lease or owns the place), they do not necessarily run a credit check. You can look on craigslist.org for the town in question, or larger place near it. Even tiny places are on craigslist.</p><p></p><p>Or, if you want to help her with the apartment, can you negotiate a shorter lease with the management, say for a period of time you can afford, in case you lose all the money. Because that possibility must be faced, that if you co-sign you will be on the hook for it all. Can you afford it?</p><p></p><p>Cedar, another member here, says: <em>We have to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror.</em> For each of us, where that cut off is, is different, in terms of our expectations of ourselves. And it is easy for all of us to be very, very tough in our counsel to others, while we slip and slide all over the place with our own kids.</p><p></p><p>I give your daughter credit. A lot of it, for the steps she is taking. Is there not a motel she can get by the week? Many, many people do this. I did, maybe 5 years back, for work. (It was a brothel--let me make it clear. I did not work at the brothel. It was just the closest motel to where a certain prison was.) It would be a lot cheaper for you to pay her rent for the first 2 weeks until her paycheck arrives than paying for a year of rent, if she skips--or decides she wants to use her money for something other than rent. Which could happen. Only you will know what to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 695619, member: 18958"] IB. [I]When you talk about me behind my back, I get sad[/I]. (Joke.) Jodie. It looks like there is a split decision in the posters. I want to add one other option: when you rent a room to share on craigslist from another party (who either had the lease or owns the place), they do not necessarily run a credit check. You can look on craigslist.org for the town in question, or larger place near it. Even tiny places are on craigslist. Or, if you want to help her with the apartment, can you negotiate a shorter lease with the management, say for a period of time you can afford, in case you lose all the money. Because that possibility must be faced, that if you co-sign you will be on the hook for it all. Can you afford it? Cedar, another member here, says: [I]We have to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror.[/I] For each of us, where that cut off is, is different, in terms of our expectations of ourselves. And it is easy for all of us to be very, very tough in our counsel to others, while we slip and slide all over the place with our own kids. I give your daughter credit. A lot of it, for the steps she is taking. Is there not a motel she can get by the week? Many, many people do this. I did, maybe 5 years back, for work. (It was a brothel--let me make it clear. I did not work at the brothel. It was just the closest motel to where a certain prison was.) It would be a lot cheaper for you to pay her rent for the first 2 weeks until her paycheck arrives than paying for a year of rent, if she skips--or decides she wants to use her money for something other than rent. Which could happen. Only you will know what to do. [/QUOTE]
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