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<blockquote data-quote="Weary Mother" data-source="post: 695798" data-attributes="member: 20487"><p>albatross, thank you for your encouragement. I do feel ok about helping fix the beaten up old van she has, and hope it holds up long enough to get her to a better place in her life. There are days when I am able to do better than others. But the days when I panic and fall apart are when it seems that all is hopeless and my tolerance is just too low to manage to be assertive and certain of how to proceed. I really do not know how it must feel to have a child that functions well and is normal, what ever normal is. I wonder at times how I would feel if I could go visit a son or daughter in their home (instead of jail or a cemetery or homeless shelter), have dinner with them, possibly have them over for dinner and visit on the patio. To me that exists only in the movies. About me: I am 66, divorced and in a long term relationship that is stable but we both live separately for now and have been for over 8 years. I am partially retired, not my choice but due to a company sale after several years of serving as Corporate Credit Manager for the North American Branch of a German owned company that is a manufacturer. I enjoyed my job and was not ready to not work. And I believe that my age has prevented me from getting full time good job offers. So I work part time managing a small office. And I could be ok with that but then my children are draining me emotionally and in every other way. I am not without means, but paying for all the emergencies can be draining. I am still ok on the fixing of the van, but no more. I am expecting her to seek out her own help because she is in a good spot to do so and if she does not, and she remains stubborn about getting outside help, like therapy or support from a church or group or possibly make some friends to just talk to or have coffee, then I won't feel like I want to jump in. She really does need to do more than work and occupy space. It will take work and being determined to do what it takes not only to exist but be strong, well and able.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Weary Mother, post: 695798, member: 20487"] albatross, thank you for your encouragement. I do feel ok about helping fix the beaten up old van she has, and hope it holds up long enough to get her to a better place in her life. There are days when I am able to do better than others. But the days when I panic and fall apart are when it seems that all is hopeless and my tolerance is just too low to manage to be assertive and certain of how to proceed. I really do not know how it must feel to have a child that functions well and is normal, what ever normal is. I wonder at times how I would feel if I could go visit a son or daughter in their home (instead of jail or a cemetery or homeless shelter), have dinner with them, possibly have them over for dinner and visit on the patio. To me that exists only in the movies. About me: I am 66, divorced and in a long term relationship that is stable but we both live separately for now and have been for over 8 years. I am partially retired, not my choice but due to a company sale after several years of serving as Corporate Credit Manager for the North American Branch of a German owned company that is a manufacturer. I enjoyed my job and was not ready to not work. And I believe that my age has prevented me from getting full time good job offers. So I work part time managing a small office. And I could be ok with that but then my children are draining me emotionally and in every other way. I am not without means, but paying for all the emergencies can be draining. I am still ok on the fixing of the van, but no more. I am expecting her to seek out her own help because she is in a good spot to do so and if she does not, and she remains stubborn about getting outside help, like therapy or support from a church or group or possibly make some friends to just talk to or have coffee, then I won't feel like I want to jump in. She really does need to do more than work and occupy space. It will take work and being determined to do what it takes not only to exist but be strong, well and able. [/QUOTE]
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