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New here. 23 yr old son, a familiar tale, I'm sure.
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<blockquote data-quote="FamiliarStory" data-source="post: 761035" data-attributes="member: 28444"><p>Thank you Jay Pee. Your thoughts mean a lot. I totally agree that he is doing the hard and lonely work of sobriety. Side note: he really embraces the peer model and has always gone to meetings and had a sponsor. So we have had some false comfort along the way that maybe it "couldn't happen" that he would relapse. His 2nd round of treatment really seemed like he was a new person. He even sounded different/had a great routine. When the pandemic shut his university down and all the in person meetings stopped for more than a year, that is clearly when the backsliding began. Not excuses, just an observation. </p><p></p><p>I am so different than I was even 2 years ago. I feel some distance from his problems. I used to feel no distance. But I have a long long way to go. He has anxiety and depression and maybe more? I was not privy to any psychiatrist Info since he was over 18 when he started going. He liked that psychiatrist a lot and we were grateful that he enjoyed going to that person. </p><p></p><p>Intellectually, I know the hard work is just beginning and that there is sooooooo much more beneath the surface. But emotionally, that thought can scare and tire me. Then I try and pick myself back up. Also trying not to dwell too much in "I thought it would look like something different at this age." That makes me super sad. I am allowing myself sad days. I have to. But my good days are more frequent. I'm sure he thinks the same thing about where he is in life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="FamiliarStory, post: 761035, member: 28444"] Thank you Jay Pee. Your thoughts mean a lot. I totally agree that he is doing the hard and lonely work of sobriety. Side note: he really embraces the peer model and has always gone to meetings and had a sponsor. So we have had some false comfort along the way that maybe it "couldn't happen" that he would relapse. His 2nd round of treatment really seemed like he was a new person. He even sounded different/had a great routine. When the pandemic shut his university down and all the in person meetings stopped for more than a year, that is clearly when the backsliding began. Not excuses, just an observation. I am so different than I was even 2 years ago. I feel some distance from his problems. I used to feel no distance. But I have a long long way to go. He has anxiety and depression and maybe more? I was not privy to any psychiatrist Info since he was over 18 when he started going. He liked that psychiatrist a lot and we were grateful that he enjoyed going to that person. Intellectually, I know the hard work is just beginning and that there is sooooooo much more beneath the surface. But emotionally, that thought can scare and tire me. Then I try and pick myself back up. Also trying not to dwell too much in "I thought it would look like something different at this age." That makes me super sad. I am allowing myself sad days. I have to. But my good days are more frequent. I'm sure he thinks the same thing about where he is in life. [/QUOTE]
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