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New here. 23 yr old son, a familiar tale, I'm sure.
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 761306" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You have a lot going on. I am sorry that your son is dealing with substance abuse. Sadly, it isn't just a "him" thing. It is a family thing. His substance abuse has made your entire family sick (dysfunctional). All the love in the world can't fix this, and that is one of the hardest things for a parent to cope with. been there done that in so many different ways. My brother and at least one grandparent had problems with substance abuse. I believe that so far none of my kids have had sub abuse issues because of all of the therapy, meetings etc.... we went through.</p><p></p><p>When your son was in high school, if you had the opportunity to raise his grades by 30% overall simply by participating in a once a week meeting, would you have done it? I know I would have, and so would my parents. When family gets into AlAnon Family meetings or the NA equivalent, and they work the program for 6-12 months, it increases their addicted loved one's chances for being clean and sober by 30%. Is it worth it to you? (If, of course, you haven't already taken this step). </p><p></p><p>I also strongly suggest reading "The Laundry List: The ACoA Experience". It will show ways that your entire family isn't operating in a functional way - for me it was insight that I was amazed by. I have never had a sub abuse issue. I think because my brother started so early (he was drinking regularly by age 12) and he was so abusive to me. I was the only one who saw clearly what was going on. He fooled our folks until he was in his mid 30's. </p><p></p><p>I hope some of this is helpful to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 761306, member: 1233"] You have a lot going on. I am sorry that your son is dealing with substance abuse. Sadly, it isn't just a "him" thing. It is a family thing. His substance abuse has made your entire family sick (dysfunctional). All the love in the world can't fix this, and that is one of the hardest things for a parent to cope with. been there done that in so many different ways. My brother and at least one grandparent had problems with substance abuse. I believe that so far none of my kids have had sub abuse issues because of all of the therapy, meetings etc.... we went through. When your son was in high school, if you had the opportunity to raise his grades by 30% overall simply by participating in a once a week meeting, would you have done it? I know I would have, and so would my parents. When family gets into AlAnon Family meetings or the NA equivalent, and they work the program for 6-12 months, it increases their addicted loved one's chances for being clean and sober by 30%. Is it worth it to you? (If, of course, you haven't already taken this step). I also strongly suggest reading "The Laundry List: The ACoA Experience". It will show ways that your entire family isn't operating in a functional way - for me it was insight that I was amazed by. I have never had a sub abuse issue. I think because my brother started so early (he was drinking regularly by age 12) and he was so abusive to me. I was the only one who saw clearly what was going on. He fooled our folks until he was in his mid 30's. I hope some of this is helpful to you. [/QUOTE]
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