Good grief. My thanks to anyone willing to read this and give some input. I appreciate communicating with someone who has "walked the walk". My seven year old son is diagnosed ADHD/ ODD. Also have 10 y/0 daughter, and 5 y/o son, both without any psychological issues, however the behavior does tend to "bleed over" from one kid to the next. And, there is no doubt that family dynamics play a role in all of this. We are on a revolving door of medications lately. But the latest cocktail is Vyvanse, Kapvay (started yesterday), and Melatonin. We have been in therapy, but I have suspended it lately because I truly felt he was not in a "teachable" place. Then there's the parenting side of the equation. The truth is that my husband and I are not on the same page. (Duh- big problem.) Despite being told that bargaining, discussions, and the like are counterproductive with ODD kids, he continues these tactics. I am by no means perfect, and don't react in textbook form to my kid. Who does? I am at my wits end. I do not know what to do. The problem continues to grow and fester. Our son's ODD seems to be getting worse. I need help with tactics to get my family on the right track, but feel helpless and hopeless. Does anyone have any suggestions of something that worked? How do you get both parents working together. This is, by far, the hardest thing we have faced. And it doesn't let up, ever. Ugh.