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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 687114" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>They cannot easily terminate parental rights, Mary.</p><p></p><p>I believe CPS would not choose to pay the money for a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) unless they felt such was indicated. I agree with SISH. I think a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is the right place if it is what is what your son needs now. If he cannot be contained or reached in a therapeutic foster home, and the lower levels of care have been tried without positive effect, it may make sense.</p><p></p><p>I think what is hard for you right now, is that you may be feeling guilt. Because of his mistreatment at the hands of your ex, and because he has problems that he seems unable to overcome.</p><p></p><p>I have not met a mother on this board who does not deal with overwhelming guilt. All of us do. We blame ourselves for the suffering of our children and we feel, irrationally, that this self-attack, and our suffering, will somehow help them. We take the bullet for them, so that they can get better.</p><p></p><p>Let me tell you, Mary, it does not work.</p><p></p><p>There is no perfect mother, perfect parent. We do the best we can. We do the best we know at the time. When we know better, we do better. Just like you.</p><p></p><p>Right now is the time to be a realist and to quite probably accept that the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) might be the best place for him. The place where he is most likely to get the interventions that could help him down the line. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry this is so hard. It has been hard for so many of us. I hope you stay and keep posting. It really helps. Take care. Forgive yourself, Mary:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 687114, member: 18958"] They cannot easily terminate parental rights, Mary. I believe CPS would not choose to pay the money for a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) unless they felt such was indicated. I agree with SISH. I think a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is the right place if it is what is what your son needs now. If he cannot be contained or reached in a therapeutic foster home, and the lower levels of care have been tried without positive effect, it may make sense. I think what is hard for you right now, is that you may be feeling guilt. Because of his mistreatment at the hands of your ex, and because he has problems that he seems unable to overcome. I have not met a mother on this board who does not deal with overwhelming guilt. All of us do. We blame ourselves for the suffering of our children and we feel, irrationally, that this self-attack, and our suffering, will somehow help them. We take the bullet for them, so that they can get better. Let me tell you, Mary, it does not work. There is no perfect mother, perfect parent. We do the best we can. We do the best we know at the time. When we know better, we do better. Just like you. Right now is the time to be a realist and to quite probably accept that the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) might be the best place for him. The place where he is most likely to get the interventions that could help him down the line. I am so sorry this is so hard. It has been hard for so many of us. I hope you stay and keep posting. It really helps. Take care. Forgive yourself, Mary: [/QUOTE]
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