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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 655006" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Welcome Annego,</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found this forum. Your question is the same question we have all asked ourselves at some point. There is no magical answer or time frame as to how long or how much. We each have to decide when enough is enough.</p><p></p><p>The fact that you are here asking this question is a clear indication that you have had enough. As Recoveringenabler said, it ends when you say it ends.</p><p></p><p>One of the hardest things for parents to grasp is that we have no control over our adult children and the choices they make.</p><p></p><p>I have been down the road of paying rent, buying food, clothes, car, giving money, pleading, begging and in the end my son still made poor life choices.</p><p></p><p>That's what it comes down to for us, the parents, choice. We have the choice of how we will respond to our Difficult Child.</p><p></p><p>The following quote really made a difference for me.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.</p><p><u>Albert Einstein </u></p><p></p><p>You have to think of yourself and the children you still have at home. Don't confuse not helping (enabling) with not loving. We here on this site all love our children but have had to detach from them in order to maintain our own sanity.</p><p></p><p>This forum offers years of pooled advice and wisdom. There is nothing you are going through that someone here has not allready been through or is going through now.</p><p></p><p>We are here to support and encourage one another.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you..............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 655006, member: 18516"] Welcome Annego, I'm glad you found this forum. Your question is the same question we have all asked ourselves at some point. There is no magical answer or time frame as to how long or how much. We each have to decide when enough is enough. The fact that you are here asking this question is a clear indication that you have had enough. As Recoveringenabler said, it ends when you say it ends. One of the hardest things for parents to grasp is that we have no control over our adult children and the choices they make. I have been down the road of paying rent, buying food, clothes, car, giving money, pleading, begging and in the end my son still made poor life choices. That's what it comes down to for us, the parents, choice. We have the choice of how we will respond to our Difficult Child. The following quote really made a difference for me. Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. [U]Albert Einstein [/U] You have to think of yourself and the children you still have at home. Don't confuse not helping (enabling) with not loving. We here on this site all love our children but have had to detach from them in order to maintain our own sanity. This forum offers years of pooled advice and wisdom. There is nothing you are going through that someone here has not allready been through or is going through now. We are here to support and encourage one another. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. ((HUGS)) to you.............. [/QUOTE]
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