Wow - I did a search on Trileptal and aggression and found this forum! Hurray! I've never known a place where people can understand what my life is like!! (although I am both married to and mother of a difficult child, so I'm hoping to find someone else who knows how that is - anyone on here?) My difficult child son is 13. diagnosis with ODD, ADHD, possible Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified when he was 8? (best I remember). He went to the only place in Alabama that our insurance covered for counseling. Did no good until they finally referred him to a county mental health center and we discovered a county run school intervention program. They helped tremendously. He was in FYI (family youth intervention) for 4 years but I have just pulled him out of school to homeschool him because of all the horrible mornings trying to get him on the bus! He was diagnosis with type 1 diabetes this January, so that just escalated problems. Life is a bit easier now since we can sleep late. I let him choose the subject for schooling for the day and he does enough for the week in that subject, so it's one subject a day each week. That seems to work ok so far. (he just now had a mini-fit though, saying he's not supposed to do history again any of next week because he's doing it now. Guess I need to make a time line to show him what it means to do something once a week) He's on Prevacid (ulcers age 8), Buspar (anxiety disorder I forgot to mention above) and just started Trileptal to hopefully help with the aggression. Contributing GREATLY to the problem is husband, who is another difficult child. He was able to hide his problems from me while we dated - I had no idea until we had kids. Then my husband disappeared and this horrible difficult child took his place! I think as long as husband had all my attention, he was happy. Once I had to take care of babies, he did not like that. So husband and DS get "into it" a LOT. They will both argue about anything and everything (that does NOT matter!!! Who cares if DS says the sky is purple?! husband cares, that's who!) Compounding the problem is husband works for a grocery store, so hours change constantly, he can be off during our school time or two days in a row (ugh!) and DS is home all the time now. More time to argue! I work 4 hours a day in the afternoons and just the other day I got a call - DS was flipping out because his glucometer wasn't beeping (he checks blood sugar with it and I had turned off the beep). He thought it was broken and husband was being his normal "lovely" self and just forcing things instead of explaining what was going on. So DS is screaming, husband is yelling and I'm at work. I've already had to quit my morning job to homeschool him and I'm beginning to think I'll have to quit my afternoon job too! (we can't afford for me to). Boss won't let DS come to work with me, even though other people bring their kids all the time (child care setting). Boss likes to think she is helping me but she makes life more difficult. Wow this was an epic post! LOL So, anyone else both married to and mother to a difficult child?