elizabrary
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I have a 20-year-old daughter who is about to drive me over the edge. I'm so glad I found this forum. She has been difficult since about 12- refused to do schoolwork, sexually promiscuous, defiant, skipped school, you name it. At 14 she and her stepmother really got into it and she threatened to run away. Her dad (we shared custody) packed up all of her stuff and dropped her off at my house. She never stayed there again and rarely saw him. At 16 she got involved with a 25-year-old man and got her first abortion. Her dr. diagnosed her depressed put her on Lexapro, which took for about 2 months and then refused. Her junior year she stopped going to school but managed to graduate through an adult ed program. At 17 she got her second abortion. She moved in with-her much older boyfriend just after turning 18. I later found out he was abusive to her. She got pregnant again and decided to have the baby with her abuser. She worked at a restaurant and attended community college while the father did nothing. Of course she quit going to classes and when she was 8 months pregnant they were evicted. I let them stay at my house, which was when I discovered the abuse. Of course I spoke to her repeatedly about it. Shortly after the baby was born when I was still asleep he pushed her down. She dropped him off at a house they were about to move into and came home and said she wanted to leave him. We called the police, went through the whole rigamorole, then she went back to him a month later. I pretty much broke off contact as I told her I would not support her in any way while she was with this guy. About 3 months later she left him and moved back into my house. I did everything I could to support her. She re-enrolled in school and worked at a daycare. About 4 months later I discovered she had quit going to school again and she left me overnight with the baby then returned home way late. I was livid and explained how she needed to behave if she wanted to continue to live with me. Two days later she said she and the baby were staying at a friend's. She never came back home and I found out she met a guy on the internet and was living at different places with him. When she came home for Thanksgiving I told her if she didn't have a permanent place to live by Dec. 31 I was calling CPS to get custody of the baby. She moved to a different state with-the internet guy and came home this weekend to get her stuff out of my house. She wanted me to keep the baby overnight so they could "get his stuff" from a nearby town (read: go out and party). I refused. She threw a fit like a 3-year-old and when they moved her stuff they left the house in a mess with trash everywhere and anything she didn't want just left for me to haul off (I live alone).
I have detached from her fairly well, but am worried sick about the baby. I NEVER thought I would be going through such madness with her. I think she's bi-polar (or something, who even knows) and told her I thought this. I said she should see a dr. Of course she was furious and refused, claiming she's fine. After interactions with her it is all I can do to get out of bed and go to work. Thank God I have my dogs and live in the country. I go on long walks with them every morning and evening to keep myself sane. Sorry this is so long, but it feels good to get it out. Any words of encouragement would help!
I have detached from her fairly well, but am worried sick about the baby. I NEVER thought I would be going through such madness with her. I think she's bi-polar (or something, who even knows) and told her I thought this. I said she should see a dr. Of course she was furious and refused, claiming she's fine. After interactions with her it is all I can do to get out of bed and go to work. Thank God I have my dogs and live in the country. I go on long walks with them every morning and evening to keep myself sane. Sorry this is so long, but it feels good to get it out. Any words of encouragement would help!