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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 611068" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. Sorry about this mess.</p><p></p><p>I actually don't blame bio. mom at all. If this kid is 165 lbs. and is standing nose to nose with her and wants his Xbox, he could seriously hurt her. in my opinion this kid is beyond the place where withholding his favorite things will help him. I do think he needs residential treatment before somebody gets seriously hurt. This is a BIG kid. Let the therapist stand up to him when he is flexing his muscles...therapists are sometimes off in la-la land. They don't have to deal with the kids, but we do. YOU don't want him in your house because he scares you, which certainly makes sense to me, but I don't blame bio. mom for not fighting him to the end either. </p><p></p><p>If I were you I wouldn't take him. He sounds dangerous. You can not parent a child you are afraid of OR who refuses to be parented. What are you supposed to do? Lock him in his room? That is abuse and he is anyhow big enough to kick down the door. </p><p></p><p>I do believe he has some sort of attachment problem (which manifests like Conduct Disorder) and that he is getting more defiant as he gets older, which usually happens. Some kids have to be loved and parented from afar and in my opinion he is one of them. Don't risk your safety just because bio. mom is dragging her feet.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and I hope he can find somewhere to get the help he needs and that the rest of you stay safe!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 611068, member: 1550"] Hi. Sorry about this mess. I actually don't blame bio. mom at all. If this kid is 165 lbs. and is standing nose to nose with her and wants his Xbox, he could seriously hurt her. in my opinion this kid is beyond the place where withholding his favorite things will help him. I do think he needs residential treatment before somebody gets seriously hurt. This is a BIG kid. Let the therapist stand up to him when he is flexing his muscles...therapists are sometimes off in la-la land. They don't have to deal with the kids, but we do. YOU don't want him in your house because he scares you, which certainly makes sense to me, but I don't blame bio. mom for not fighting him to the end either. If I were you I wouldn't take him. He sounds dangerous. You can not parent a child you are afraid of OR who refuses to be parented. What are you supposed to do? Lock him in his room? That is abuse and he is anyhow big enough to kick down the door. I do believe he has some sort of attachment problem (which manifests like Conduct Disorder) and that he is getting more defiant as he gets older, which usually happens. Some kids have to be loved and parented from afar and in my opinion he is one of them. Don't risk your safety just because bio. mom is dragging her feet. Hugs and I hope he can find somewhere to get the help he needs and that the rest of you stay safe!!! [/QUOTE]
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