Firstly hi to everyone! I am new to forums so not sure of all the abbreviations for words lol. I am pretty sure my five year old daughter has ODD, things got bad around the age of 3 and have got worse daily. It started with me thinking she was just naughty. She has daily outbursts which involve swearing, attacking me (and other adults) throwing things, trying to smash windows, growling screaming she hates me and basically will do anything she can to annoy me. We have tried all the usual methods of discipline, time out, charts, sending to her room, even smacking and taking away privilages all seem to make her even worse. She is waiting for an appointment to be accessed but have been warned it could take six months. Some of my other concerns are that her motor skills are bad, she cant skip, hop or eat without making a big mess, if she spills her drink she will make no effort to pick it up just watch it spill. My biggest concern apart from her aggression is she wets herself daily and has done forever. We did have a month of her being dry about a year ago but not since and no obvious reasons have been found for it. Her hearing is very selective, she can totally ignore you, her mischief has got worse in the last few weeks and more babyish like spreading toothpaste over everything etc. She is bright, and at nursery no problems apart from being rude to the teachers. She was never rude to other children. She loved nursery but will often cause a big scene about going and acts like this even if it a day out for her to the farm or theme park etc, yet she will love it once there. Also I cant take her shopping she will cause havock in the shops and refuse to do anything she is told. It has been ruled out that about ADHD she is not hyperactive. I have 2 other daughters, a 12 year old who is an angel and never rude to me, and a baby of 7 months. This is notdue to jealousy because it started long before the baby arrived. Any ideas guys? does this sound like ODD? or anything else I can mention to the doctor to hopefully speed things up?