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<blockquote data-quote="Sunlight" data-source="post: 33294" data-attributes="member: 97"><p>hi there from a fellow granny. My son fathered a child to a woman he is no longer dating. my grandson is 3. I love him and had the privilege of watching and coaching his birth. I am very protective of him and attached to my lil man. (he calls me Nunny)</p><p></p><p>that said, I have to tell you that you must pull back and stop helping so much. even if your daughter works daylight she will need child care. she can get help from the state for day care.</p><p></p><p>my grandson's mom is on welfare so they live in public housing on food stamps and welfare. the state pays for daycare for him while she sleeps on the couch all day. the state bought her a car and paid the first month's insurance. she cannot work because she cannot get out of bed after partying all night. who knows who watches my grandson when he is not with me.</p><p></p><p>my son lost his license til he is 34 (he is 23) because of three underage DUIs. he has recently been evicted from the home of me/his mom.</p><p></p><p>so that leaves lil Kaleb in a lurch.</p><p></p><p>my son and Kaleb's mom are able bodied people younger than me with more energy than I have. My son works but buys fine clothing, eats out at restaurants and wines and dines a bevy of young girls. he does not pay child support because they sahre custody two weeks on and off.</p><p></p><p>I buy Kaleb clothes at the salvation army store..I buy his toys there too. that way his parents cannot return them for the money. I keep diapers here for him but do not send them to him when he is not with me. I feed him when he is here, but the rest of the time he is on his own.</p><p></p><p>cut the cord. you are gramma not mom. you already raised your kids. your daughter can do without or get to work. you may have to see the kids do without too at times. dont do her laundry or give her any cash at all or gas money. start someplace to do less. </p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Control Behaviors Which Weaken Boundaries<br /> <ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">1. Need to Fix</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">2. Need to be a Caretaker</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">3. Unchecked Idealism</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">4. Non-acceptance of Powerlessness</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">5. Lack of Belief in a Higher Power</li> </ul></li> </ul></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sunlight, post: 33294, member: 97"] hi there from a fellow granny. My son fathered a child to a woman he is no longer dating. my grandson is 3. I love him and had the privilege of watching and coaching his birth. I am very protective of him and attached to my lil man. (he calls me Nunny) that said, I have to tell you that you must pull back and stop helping so much. even if your daughter works daylight she will need child care. she can get help from the state for day care. my grandson's mom is on welfare so they live in public housing on food stamps and welfare. the state pays for daycare for him while she sleeps on the couch all day. the state bought her a car and paid the first month's insurance. she cannot work because she cannot get out of bed after partying all night. who knows who watches my grandson when he is not with me. my son lost his license til he is 34 (he is 23) because of three underage DUIs. he has recently been evicted from the home of me/his mom. so that leaves lil Kaleb in a lurch. my son and Kaleb's mom are able bodied people younger than me with more energy than I have. My son works but buys fine clothing, eats out at restaurants and wines and dines a bevy of young girls. he does not pay child support because they sahre custody two weeks on and off. I buy Kaleb clothes at the salvation army store..I buy his toys there too. that way his parents cannot return them for the money. I keep diapers here for him but do not send them to him when he is not with me. I feed him when he is here, but the rest of the time he is on his own. cut the cord. you are gramma not mom. you already raised your kids. your daughter can do without or get to work. you may have to see the kids do without too at times. dont do her laundry or give her any cash at all or gas money. start someplace to do less. [LIST] [*]Control Behaviors Which Weaken Boundaries [LIST] [*]1. Need to Fix [*]2. Need to be a Caretaker [*]3. Unchecked Idealism [*]4. Non-acceptance of Powerlessness [*]5. Lack of Belief in a Higher Power [/LIST] [/LIST] [/QUOTE]
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