So hi, Im new to this site, found it browsing for strategies dealing with my 7 year old step daughter. I was just wondering if there was anyone else out there in a similar situation that may have advice, support, etc.. My situation: I married a wonderful guy with 2 children ( I had one of my own) we also have had a child together. A few years ago his kids' mom abandoned them, giving over all her rights to us. They were 4 and 5. I have tried my best to be a great mom to them. I know its so hard to be young and not understand why the woman who should be loving and nurturing you wants nothing to do with you. The older child has adjusted well, we've really bonded and for awhile everything seemed to be going well, one big happy family. But the last year my 7 year old stepdaughter has taken a turn for the worst, behavior wise. I just dont understand it. All her anger seems to be aimed right at me. We have been in counseling for a year with no change, her behavior is only getting worse. She constantly beats on my 3 year old child. To the point that they absolutely cannot be unsupervised even for a minute. She lies constantly, steals from me, destroys my things. Im at my breaking point. Shes doing great at school, I got her involved in sports. I consider myself to be a fair, rational parent. If I punish her for her bad behavior, it only worsens. To the point that I have to keep my bedroom door locked or she'll sneak in and destroy everything she can find that belongs to me. Yet she never talks back or yells at me or anything. Its always sneaky stuff. The counselor says shes ODD. Ive tried everything they suggest with no favorable results. Im seriously at my breaking point. Is there anyone else out there dealing with a child diagnosed as ODD. What works for you? How do you cope?