I came online tonight looking for more info about ODD because my daughter has it and it has been a long day. She's 8 years old and also has PTSD and panic attacks. Her biggest problem, though, is the ODD. She's just abusive and mean. I don't really understand why she's this way. I have another daughter who is nice. I left her dad when she was about 6 months old because he was violent and mean. Now, years later, I hear some of the same phrases coming out of her mouth. It's horrible. I managed to raise a nice kid, so I don't feel that it's totally my fault. She's just wired differently than my nice daughter and me are. Both of my kids are in a program to help them get counselling and learn to interact appropriately with other kids. (My other daughter has epilepsy, depression, and possibly Aspergers or Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified.) The thing is, my daughter respects their authority. She's nice to her counselors. She just treats me and people in our family like garbage. If a man treated me this way, I'd get a retraining order. In fact I did. But I am just at my wits' end with my daughter. Tonight she was beating her sister as I as we tried to watch a movie and saying awful things to us, and I got so upset that I needed to get away from her and take a time out or I thought I was going to fight back. She won't give me any space, though. She seems to enjoy causing me stress. Thank you for letting me vent. Can anyone recommend any good reading about this? FYI, her sister and I have epilepsy and I have PTSD.