Hi,
I'll warn you that this is long!
I have 4 1/2 year old boy/girl twins. I'll start with my son. My twins were born full term. He had plagiocephally and torticollis (tight neck muscles). He saw a PT through ECI for the toritcollis and general muscular issues (arms and legs). We were able to correct with re-positioning instead of a helmet. He had an issue with his larnyx which required oxygen for several months when very young. He saw an Occupational Therapist (OT) for oral motor issues (food stuffing, not chewing correctly, etc...) and what was eventually called "sensory issues". From 2 months of age on, he had a challenging temperment, could not self sooth, and was easily over-stimulated. There were/are also some sensory seeking behaviors, which complicated things. He also had severe reflux until about 14 months. At 2 years of age he had maybe 5 words, which was a concern. Then, at about 2 years, 2 months, the flood gates opened and he was speaking in sentences within weeks. He has always been a very smart kid, so the therapists thought that the temperment was due to having so much information in his head and not being able to express himself...and that things would improve when he started to talk. He would go into 1-2 hour rages that nothing could stop.....just rolling around on the floor screaming. With the communication improvement and some self-soothing techniques, things did improve considerably. His ECI file lists "sensory issues" as a concern, but since he was so young, we decided not to do a full sensory diagnosis and work-up.
He started preschool at age 3 and we had some initial challenges, especially with transitioning and finding new self soothing techniques (since he couldn't go to his room and calm down like he does at home). We made it through and are in the second year of preschool, but things are getting considerably WORSE at home and at school. He is definitely still showing the sensory issues.....easily over-stimulated, can't handle chaos or loud noises, clothes bother him, etc.... Transitions are still tough and if there is any change to his plan, he goes into a crazy meltdown. He'll scream, thrash, hit, claw me, kick me, etc. This used to happen mostly at home, but now it's in public. Very MINOR disappointments set him off. He doesn't want to go to school (but loves it once he's there and does fine). Almost every day it's a struggle to get him to go in and sit down in class. This morning I had to carry him out while he was clawing my arms and trying to slap me in the face. Multiple times a day I'm getting kicked, hit, spit at, etc.... It's getting to the point that I'm scared to take him anywhere because the meltdown could happen at any moment.
He has friends and will play with them in a group, but prefers to play alone a lot of the time. He is VERY inquisitive and likes to know everything about a certain subject. His biggest obsession is cars/ trucks/ tractors, but he has also gone through a volcano obsession. He's very fact oriented....likes to watch documentaries, and read (us read to him) factual books. He definitely beats to his own drum, but for the most part does fine in school and social situations.....when he decides he wants to be there.
We have our first appointment with the psychologist next week. Any opinions my son's behavior? I think I'm most nervous that there WON'T be a diagnosis. Any feedback from you guys would be awesome!
And now on to my daughter..... She really had no health issues during the first few years, but has always been strong-willed. At about 3, things began to escalate. She also would have HUGE meltdowns (but only at home), was very destructive, and very agressive towards me. This continued to get worse and by the end of last year (age 4) I felt like things were totally out of control. She NEVER sat down to play with a toy, but would just walk through the house provoking her brothers or me. She always had kind of a wild look in her eyes. If there was any type of consequence, she would go into a rage and tear up the room, climb up the refrigerator or on top of the cabinet, follow me around the house trying to hit me and screaming at the top of her lungs. If we were in the car, she would take off her shoes and throw them at my head, and then scream over and over.....which then set off my son with sensory issues. She gets a glazed look when she's going into the episode and sometimes doesn't even remember what she did. If I try to discipline her in any way, things escalate and she's destroying the whole house. At this point, when I see her going into an episode, I just sit with her (sometimes holding her hands so she won't hit me) until she calms down. That seems to be working best, but I still want to know what's going on. I feel bad for her because I genuinely don't think she can control her actions. She was also craving sugar and bread like crazy, so I changed up our diet and cut out most sugar, all preservatives, and all dyes and have seen some improvement. She was in play therapy for several months, but I didn't see much improvement directly related to that. She has an appointment with the psychologist as well.
I also have a 2 year old who is copying the agressive behaviours of the old kids, which is not fun. :-(
Any ideas on what the diagnosis might be? Or will there even be one? Any similar stories?
Thank you!!!
Shelley
I'll warn you that this is long!
I have 4 1/2 year old boy/girl twins. I'll start with my son. My twins were born full term. He had plagiocephally and torticollis (tight neck muscles). He saw a PT through ECI for the toritcollis and general muscular issues (arms and legs). We were able to correct with re-positioning instead of a helmet. He had an issue with his larnyx which required oxygen for several months when very young. He saw an Occupational Therapist (OT) for oral motor issues (food stuffing, not chewing correctly, etc...) and what was eventually called "sensory issues". From 2 months of age on, he had a challenging temperment, could not self sooth, and was easily over-stimulated. There were/are also some sensory seeking behaviors, which complicated things. He also had severe reflux until about 14 months. At 2 years of age he had maybe 5 words, which was a concern. Then, at about 2 years, 2 months, the flood gates opened and he was speaking in sentences within weeks. He has always been a very smart kid, so the therapists thought that the temperment was due to having so much information in his head and not being able to express himself...and that things would improve when he started to talk. He would go into 1-2 hour rages that nothing could stop.....just rolling around on the floor screaming. With the communication improvement and some self-soothing techniques, things did improve considerably. His ECI file lists "sensory issues" as a concern, but since he was so young, we decided not to do a full sensory diagnosis and work-up.
He started preschool at age 3 and we had some initial challenges, especially with transitioning and finding new self soothing techniques (since he couldn't go to his room and calm down like he does at home). We made it through and are in the second year of preschool, but things are getting considerably WORSE at home and at school. He is definitely still showing the sensory issues.....easily over-stimulated, can't handle chaos or loud noises, clothes bother him, etc.... Transitions are still tough and if there is any change to his plan, he goes into a crazy meltdown. He'll scream, thrash, hit, claw me, kick me, etc. This used to happen mostly at home, but now it's in public. Very MINOR disappointments set him off. He doesn't want to go to school (but loves it once he's there and does fine). Almost every day it's a struggle to get him to go in and sit down in class. This morning I had to carry him out while he was clawing my arms and trying to slap me in the face. Multiple times a day I'm getting kicked, hit, spit at, etc.... It's getting to the point that I'm scared to take him anywhere because the meltdown could happen at any moment.
He has friends and will play with them in a group, but prefers to play alone a lot of the time. He is VERY inquisitive and likes to know everything about a certain subject. His biggest obsession is cars/ trucks/ tractors, but he has also gone through a volcano obsession. He's very fact oriented....likes to watch documentaries, and read (us read to him) factual books. He definitely beats to his own drum, but for the most part does fine in school and social situations.....when he decides he wants to be there.
We have our first appointment with the psychologist next week. Any opinions my son's behavior? I think I'm most nervous that there WON'T be a diagnosis. Any feedback from you guys would be awesome!
And now on to my daughter..... She really had no health issues during the first few years, but has always been strong-willed. At about 3, things began to escalate. She also would have HUGE meltdowns (but only at home), was very destructive, and very agressive towards me. This continued to get worse and by the end of last year (age 4) I felt like things were totally out of control. She NEVER sat down to play with a toy, but would just walk through the house provoking her brothers or me. She always had kind of a wild look in her eyes. If there was any type of consequence, she would go into a rage and tear up the room, climb up the refrigerator or on top of the cabinet, follow me around the house trying to hit me and screaming at the top of her lungs. If we were in the car, she would take off her shoes and throw them at my head, and then scream over and over.....which then set off my son with sensory issues. She gets a glazed look when she's going into the episode and sometimes doesn't even remember what she did. If I try to discipline her in any way, things escalate and she's destroying the whole house. At this point, when I see her going into an episode, I just sit with her (sometimes holding her hands so she won't hit me) until she calms down. That seems to be working best, but I still want to know what's going on. I feel bad for her because I genuinely don't think she can control her actions. She was also craving sugar and bread like crazy, so I changed up our diet and cut out most sugar, all preservatives, and all dyes and have seen some improvement. She was in play therapy for several months, but I didn't see much improvement directly related to that. She has an appointment with the psychologist as well.
I also have a 2 year old who is copying the agressive behaviours of the old kids, which is not fun. :-(
Any ideas on what the diagnosis might be? Or will there even be one? Any similar stories?
Thank you!!!
Shelley